8 Ways to Boost Your Relationship


1. Share an activity
A great way to focus on the future of your relationship is through shared activity. Whether it's watching movies, signing up for cookery classes, or going to the gym together, try and establish a routine for doing some things together as a couple. It is key to protect this together time from conflict, however. If a pressing relationship issue comes up during this time, commit to discussing it at an agreed time in the near future.
2. Find true forgiveness
Look inwards and ask yourself, what past hurtful acts of your partner have you truly managed to forgive? You may have been able to look past angry and bitter thoughts, and carry on, but these resentments continue to act as weeds in the relationship.
Forgiving may mean that you two have to talk about the painful issues with a third person, or a therapist, or you may have to turn towards spirituality to process the pain and let go of the old wounds on your own.
3. Express gratitude
All too often, we take the help and support we get from our partners for granted - and forget to say ‘thank you'. In the same way you would thank a friend if you went to their home for dinner, you should also thank your partner for cooking you a lovely meal at home - or taking the trash out, or paying bills, or whatever little chore he has done. Showing your partner you appreciate what they do for you is essential for maintaining a happy relationship.
4. Eat healthy
When you eat a healthy balanced diet geared towards physiological wellbeing, you are also feeding your brain. "There are many different mechanisms by which the brain extracts what it needs from the diet, but one of the basics for this process is gastrointestinal health. Serotonin, the happiness hormone, is found in the gastrointestinal tract. Therefore, by promoting a general sense of wellbeing, you are creating more positivity in your relationships.
5. Make joint decisions
When you are making big or small decisions - whether it's where you move, what color your new curtains should be, or where you go on vacation - make a conscious effort to consult your partner, and have an open mind. By considering their thoughts and feedback before making the decision, you are showing them that you respect them and their input. This sharing of ‘power' is one of the most important things for a relationship to be healthy.
6. Look for the secret button
In any marriage, each person needs to be aware of their partner's needs. You might think that you are giving everything to the relationship, but maybe you are not giving what your spouse really needs. The challenge is to find the ‘secret button' that works for that person, because if you don't, it can lead to frustration and disappointment, and the relationship will start to feel like too much hard work. The basic human needs are comfort and security; variety (challenges that stimulate); the need to feel important; the need for love and connection; the need to grow and develop; and the need to contribute. Being observant about your partner's behavior will help you work out what his priorities are. Once you start understanding what is driving him, you can work at addressing that need, rather than reacting on a superficial level.
7. Don't overlook the little things
Don't wait for a birthday or Valentine's Day to do something nice for your partner. Make every day special by doing something small for each other or planning little surprises that show you care. This could be anything like a quick phone call to check on him if he isn't feeling well, picking up a muffin from the bakery on the way home, a midday text to say that you are thinking about him, or making his favorite food for dinner.
8. Keep it funny
A sense of humor is critical for getting through common relationship hurdles. If your partner has an annoying habit, using humor when telling him about it, rather than nagging, will make getting your point across that much easier. Equally, playfulness is one of the main casualties of relationships, when you are bogged down by everyday stresses. Consciously seek out ways to find the humor and fun you enjoyed in the early stages of your relationship - there are few things that are as bonding as shared laughter.
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