4 Tools to Create Life of Your Dreams: Meditate, WCA, VA and Unresolved Emotions

95% of our life is coming from the programs of life that we get in the first seven years of life.

There's the famous book Rich, Dad Poor Dad and it basically said you come from a poor family and you could struggle your whole life and if you come from a rich family you could be stupid your whole life and make it, not because it was thinking but it was unconscious behavior that was downloaded from rich families into kids which is unconscious.

Poor people have beliefs from the family, you can't make it, life's a struggle, things are hard. Who do you think you are and if that's the program you get then 95% of the day you will sabotage yourself and that's why poor people stay poor and rich people stay rich because the programming.

Give me a child until it's 7 and I will show you the man. 95% of your life after that will be whatever that program is. Look at your life and say where am I struggling? Because wherever you're struggling inevitably is a program in your subconsciousness that does not support that destination you've been looking for. The conscious mind is creative and can learn in any number of ways, read a self-help book, listen to this program and conscious mind is going to get some awareness. But subconscious mind doesn't learn that way.

Subconscious mind learns in two fundamental ways:
1. Natural hypnosis
2. Practice/Repetition - It is like fake it till you make it. Meaning if you're not a happy person and you want to be a happy person then repeat all the time. I'm happy, I'm happy. I say well, you don't look happy right? Who am I talking to by repetition? I'm talking to subconscious.

There will be a point once the subconscious got I am happy. You don't have to say it again. It'll be automatic and that's why we people see people do affirmations and the gratitude journals and stuff because if you do that daily, it's repetitive. That's the secret part.

Putting a sticky note on the refrigerator is like a suggestion but it's not a repetition. So it doesn't work very well.

Listen to your affirmations or anything you want to program the subconscious with while you are sleeping everyday.

Learn how the mind works because once you know how the mind works you can control it. You can focus it. You can't focus or concentrate something you don't understand. So how does the mind work?

There's two things that you need to understand: one is the awareness and one is the mind
So I'll take a few moments to explain this to you and share what they are so you imagine awareness is a glowing ball of light like an orb that can float around.

Okay, so that's awareness now Imagine your mind as a vast space, a vast area with many different sections within it. One area of the mind is anger, jealousy, food, sex, happiness, joy, science, art.
And this glowing ball of light call awareness can travel within the mind and it can go to any area of the mind it wants to go to and when it goes to a particular area of the mind it lights up that area.
When it lights up that area of the mind you become conscious of it and this is what happens all day.

We allow people and things around us to take our awareness from one area of the mind to another all day long.

To be concentrated is to be able to keep your awareness on one thing for an extended period of time using your Will Power. How do we practice this? We practice this by doing one thing at a time throughout the day

What's the best way to develop concentration? The best way to develop concentration is to bring that practice into our everyday life

When people say to me "life is too busy I can't simplify". No, it's you don't want to. You have the choice, nobody's holding a gun to your head saying you have to associate with these people and you have to do these things.No, you choose to do them.

I only have this much energy and I need to divide it between all the people and things that I love. The law of thermodynamic states, you cannot create or destroy energy. But you can transfer it from one thing to another or transform it from one thing to another. So I can't create more energy, I only have this much because at 11 o'clock tonight. I'll be exhausted and ready to sleep.

Look at energy the same way you look at money. It's a finite resource that needs to be wisely managed wisely reallocated and wisely invested. The average person sleeps about 7 to 8 hours to say roughly so we're awake for about 16 hours of the day. Let's just say on average we're practicing it 13 hours a day seven days a week distraction. And then you wonder why you're so good at it
That's the law of practice.

The law of practice is that we become good at whatever it is we practice, whether it's positive or negative. It doesn't matter. If you practice something over and over and over again. You become really good at it. And that's why people are so good at distraction because it's what they practice

Look at opportunities throughout your day in your average day. Ask yourself. What's a great opportunity to practice concentration? How many of you have a spouse a partner that you live with?
Every time you speak with your spouse or your partner. Keep that ball of light that awareness on that person. It drifts away.  Bring it back the more you practice this the more you become better at concentration. Give her or him your undivided attention

Every time you speak with your child, practice concentration. And if you can't concentrate, you can't expect your child to concentrate.

Life is a manifestation of where your energy is flowing. And if you can't concentrate your energy the things that you want to manifest in your life becomes very very challenging. So learn to concentrate by doing one thing at a time.

Bring this practice into everything that you do throughout the day. Make it a part of your life practice. Keep bringing awareness back and keep it focused on one thing at a time

Program your subconscious using affirmations. There are three parts to Affirmations:
1. Clear concise choice of positive words
2. Clear visualization 
3. Corresponding Feeling. 

Feeling being the most important component because it's the actual energy that attracts.

Now you can draw and bring into your life anything you want.

1. Meditate to know yourself and your purpose
2. WCA - Make a choice to be in the present moment by using Will Power(W) to Concentrate(C) your Awareness(A) on one thing at a time(Task which will fulfill your purpose). If your awareness is in the past it will invoke the same old emotions which will attract the same experiences.
3. VA - Use Visualization(V) and Affirmation(A) to imprint the subconscious mind with your purpose.
4. Remove Past Unresolved Emotions from Subconscious by writing the experiences on paper and then burning the paper. The emotions create patterns which keeps you vibrating at old frequencies

Jeff Bezos's Top 10 Rules For Success

Jeff is the founder of Amazon. He left a high-paying job to start his own .com business in 1994 and everyone thought he was crazy?

Well, 23 years later.....He has created an empire !

There’s a lot to be learned from Jeff about business. I’ve just watched this cool video that lists Jeff Bezos's top 10 rules for success, taken from his various interviews and speeches.

This is valuable for all entrepreneurs even if you are trying to find focus, direction and ambition in life.
He is one of my role model's and I hope you’ll find this useful.

Perfection and Self Doubt

This a repost of the article published on linkedIn by Ash Srivastava
I have thought about writing on LinkedIn for some time. I kept going from one idea to another until I could think of something smart or genius or perfect, but I could not think about anything :)
One of my other challenge was that I wanted to have the "PERFECT first post", like a Disney blockbuster which has all the right ingredients and perfect story telling. I was waiting for an inspiration which will somehow make the perfect first post on LinkedIn, maybe some sort of celebrity endorsement of my unknown stature in the world of LinkedIn which will launch me into stardom and make me into a star (secretly wishing that people will line up to take selfies with the "guy with the PERFECT first post" lol).
I was walking by the CIBC HQ last week and I saw Victor Dodig(CEO of CIBC - for those who do not know, he love's selfies). I walked up to him and asked, "Victor, you mind if we took a selfie with you?". It all went smoothly and you can see the picture above. After I took the selfie, I thanked him and started walking to my office but my mind was racing from one thought to another. It went something like, "I have just got a selfie with one of the top financial leaders in Canada and maybe I can now go and write my perfect first post(hopefully be known as 'The guy with the PERFECT first post' then I just need to wait for 10000 likes and 100s of comments lol). 

Are You Angry?

Last week someone showed me a finger while I was driving. The person was trying to make a right turn and I happen to be coming in that lane. Clearly I was not doing anything wrong but my fellow human was really upset. His reaction made me angry(automatically) and also curious as to why am I getting angry at angry people? I got better things to do but the almost instant brain response to threat was anger. A complicated threat (it is unknown to my primitive brain as no wild animal was attacking me) made by a hand gesture which was learnt as a theory by my modern brain to be perceived as an attack on ego.

Anger is a is nothing more than a defense mechanism created to hurt others but, in the end, it only hurts one person: Myself.

The Neurological Imperative: Conserve EnergyThrough the process of habituation, a perception of ego vulnerability, repeated over time, consolidates into a presumption of vulnerability, which requires the continual protection of anger. Also by virtue of habituation, the repeated experience of anger in defense of the ego reinforces its sense of vulnerability. The more you experience anger, the more anger you need to experience.
InflationIn addition to needing more and more protection from threat, the angry person attempts to reduce the fear and sense of inadequacy (shame) that go with a vulnerable ego, through a process of inflation. An inflated ego is one whose value depends on downward comparison to the value and rights of others - I'm not equal, I'm better! In addition to temporarily making the ego feel less vulnerable, inflation justifies the motivations of anger to prevail and dominate. It also creates a sense of entitlement - I deserve special regard, treatment, or resources - that is certain to cause negative reactions in others and require a response of still more defensive anger. As if that weren't bad enough, inflation guarantees cognitive dissonance whenever reality smacks against the overestimation of intelligence, talents, looks, shoes, or socks - whatever is used to inflate the ego.

Thinking Overload - Let Go !

Do you have space in the mind?

Make space.

Let go - this is the week of letting go. Let go of expectations, desires, obsessions, anger, mindlessness, exhaustion. BE and let go of all these habits which fight back with you - trust in the power of highest potential and let all these go to that power. Trust that whatever will manifest after letting go will be the gift.

OM LAGHU BHAVAM is sanskrit for I am lightness itself. Think about it and focus on your breathing. Let go !

As you breath you will make space inside your mind and body. Pay attention to it and let wrap you in silence and peace in the vast empty space of unconditional love and acceptance.

When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be. When I let go of what I have, I receive what I need.
–Lao Tzu

Breathe. Let go. And remind yourself that this very moment is the only one you know you have for sure.
—Oprah Winfrey

Suffering is not holding you. You are holding suffering. When you become good at the art of letting sufferings go, then you’ll come to realize how unnecessary it was for you to drag those burdens around with you. You’ll see that no one else other than you was responsible. The truth is that existence wants your life to become a festival.

You cannot let go of anything if you cannot notice that you are holding it. Admit your ‘weaknesses’ and watch them morph into your greatest strengths. – Neale Donald Walsch

Mindfulness: Simple is beautiful

Mindfulness is a state of active, open attention on the present. When you're mindful, you observe your thoughts and feelings from a distance, without judging them good or bad. 

I am open to receiving peace in this moment; in the seeking and finding I am open to be receiving. I let go of resistance and surrender to this moment of now. I slow down, give up my past and future. I am ready to be in the moment ready for whatever happens. 

“In today’s rush, we all think too much — seek too much — want too much — and forget about the joy of just being.” ~Eckhart Tolle

“Suffering usually relates to wanting things to be different than they are.” ~Allan Lokos

”Feelings come and go like clouds in a windy sky. Conscious breathing is my anchor.” ~Thich Nhat Hanh

“Everything is created twice, first in the mind and then in reality.” ~Robin S. Sharma

“In this moment, there is plenty of time. In this moment, you are precisely as you should be. In this moment, there is infinite possibility.” ~Victoria Moran

“Each morning we are born again. What we do today is what matters most.” ~Buddha

“If you concentrate on finding whatever is good in every situation, you will discover that your life will suddenly be filled with gratitude, a feeling that nurtures the soul.” ~Rabbi Harold Kushner

 “There’s only one reason why you’re not experiencing bliss at this present moment, and it’s because you’re thinking or focusing on what you don’t have…. But, right now you have everything you need to be in bliss.” ~Anthony de Mello
“The most precious gift we can offer others is our presence. When mindfulness embraces those we love, they will bloom like flowers.” ~Thich Nhat Hanh

“By breaking down our sense of self-importance, all we lose is a parasite that has long infected our minds. What we gain in return is freedom, openness of mind, spontaneity, simplicity, altruism: all qualities inherent in happiness.” ~Matthieu Ricard

The Hall of One Thousand Mirrors

A certain Shaolin temple in China has a unique hall. It’s known as the hall of a thousand mirrors, for its walls and roof are studded with one thousand mirrors. Many monks train there perfecting their moves with extraordinary precision as they see themselves from a thousand angles. One day it so happened that a dog managed to sneak in.

Seeing that one thousand dogs had surrounded him, he felt insecure and threatened. He bared his teeth, growled and barked to scare the other dogs away. Naturally, one thousand dogs growled back at him and barked. Not to be outdone, he charged at them furiously. One thousand charged back at him. Breaking some mirrors and getting hurt in the process, the dog soon ran out of energy to fight other dogs and died a bloody death.

Source: Read More on Om Swami Website

Emotions: How to Find Deeper Fulfillment

By: Deepak Chopra M.D. and Rudolph E. Tanzi Ph.D.

I recently received a copy of this book and really enjoyed reading it. 

Emotions are a vast subject, but there's one statement that
holds true for everyone. The most desirable emotional state is happiness. Even though happiness is a mental state, the body is deeply affected by our moods. Chemical messages tell every cell how you feel. In its own way a cell can be happy or sad, agitated or content, joyous or despairing. The super genome amply confirms this fact. If your stomach has ever tightened from fear, the "gut
brain" is eavesdropping on your emotion, and when depression afflicts several generations in a family, epigenetic marks may be playing a key role. Most polls find that around 80 percent of people describe themselves as happy, and yet other research indicated that at best around 30 percent of people are actually thriving, while rates of depression, anxiety, and stress continue to

It is highly unlikely that a "happiness gene" will ever be discovered. As discussed in the new
book, SuperGenes. The new genetics tells us that in complex diseases like cancer hundreds of separate genetic mutations are likely involved. Emotions are much more complex than any disease. But we don't need to discover the happiness gene. Instead, we should give as much positive input to the super genome as possible, trusting it to produce positive output. Science may take decades to
correlate the complex gene activity that produces happiness; in the meantime, the super genome connects all the input that life brings us. 

Let's contrast the kind of input that promotes beneficial gene activity with the kind that creates damage. Both lists contain items you are quite familiar with by now, but it's good to see everything gathered together. 

Positive Input to the Super Genome

12 things that reinforce happiness

  • Meditation
  • Love and affection
  • Satisfying work
  • Creative outlets
  • Hobbies
  • Success
  • Being appreciated
  • Being of service
  • Healthy food,
  • water, and air
  • Setting long-range goals
  • Physical fitness
  • Regular routine
  • free of stress

Why “To-Do” Lists Don’t Work, and How to Change That

How often do you feel overwhelmed and disorganized in life, whether at work or home? We all seem to struggle with time management in some area of our life; one of the most common phrases besides "I love you" is "I don't have time". Everyone suggests working from a to do list to start getting your life more organized, but why do these lists also have a negative connotation to them?

Let's say you have a strong desire to turn this situation around with all your good intentions—you may then take out a piece of paper and pen to start tackling this intangible mess with a "to-do" list. What usually happens, is that you either get so overwhelmed seeing everything on your list, which leaves you feeling worse than you did before, or you make the list but are completely stuck on how to execute it effectively.

"To-do" lists can work for you, but if you are not using them effectively, they can actually leave you feeling more disillusioned and stressed than you did before. Think of a filing system: the concept is good, but if you merely file papers away with no structure or system, the filing system will have an adverse effect. The same with "to-do" lists—you can put one together, but if you don't do it right, it is a fruitless exercise.

Most people find that general to do lists don't work because:
- They get so overwhelmed just by looking at all the things they need to do
- They don't know how to prioritize the items on list
- They feel that they are continuously adding to their list but not reducing it
- There's a sense of confusion seeing home tasks mixed with work tasks, etc

A Step-by-Step Process to Teach Yourself Anything (in a Fraction of the Time)

The following article is from Scott H Young. I have been following his website for a few years now and this is my favorite article.

Have you ever wanted to learn something, but weren't sure where to start? Maybe you want to learn a language, programming or business. Maybe you want the confidence to tackle supposedly "hard" subjects like math, finance or physics. Today I'm going to show you how.

Scott used this in MIT
I'm going to describe the process I've used to condense a lot of learning into a short period of time. This is the same process I used to learn MIT's 4-year computer science curriculum in twelve months, teach myself languages, business and intellectual subjects like physics and psychology.
This article is going to be a bit longer (~3500 words), so you may want to bookmark it for later.
I'm going to focus on the strategy for learning, meaning how you choose to break down a nebulous goal like "learn to speak French" or "understand personal finance" into something concrete and actionable. As much as possible, I'll try to provide links to specific low-level tactics I use, such as the Feynman technique, visual mnemonics or active recall as well.
This strategy is just one possibility. If you've found success with another, by all means, go ahead! I only want to share the method I've been honing for years across a variety of different subjects.

The Steps in 2-Minutes
If you're short on reading time, I'll summarize the steps for you:
  1. Take your learning goal, and craft it into a compelling, obsession-worthy mission.
  2. Find material to learn from, structure it into a flexible curriculum.
  3. Define feedback mechanisms to constantly direct your future learning efforts and ensure high-intensity, active recall.
  4. Test and enforce a schedule that is sustainable over the entire lifetime of the project.
  5. Develop a long-term retention strategy (formal or informal).