How do I constantly motivate myself and keep going on?

Author: Rizwan Azeem

I feel your pain, losing passion or motivation in life really, really sucks.

A few years ago I was working in a job I hated. The job was great - I just hated it anyway. I lost all motivation and passion. I didn't know what to do. I would stay up all night dreading going to work in the morning.

In the morning, I would wake up like being in a daze. In the morning, I felt worse than I did when I went to sleep. I was tired and anxious in the morning because of being awake all night. I lost all my will to go on.

The worst was my productivity was going down at work. How could I work? I was awake all night being anxious. Even though I wanted to work, I couldn't get myself to work. My mind would wander, almost hallucinating.

I thought about leaving the job and going to another company. Then I thought, what if I had the same problem there.

I was at the end of the line and willing to do anything, just to get back up. I really wanted to get the passion and motivation back in my life.

But the big question was

How Do You Get Passion Or Motivation Back In Your Life?

I tried everything that I could. I talked to my friends, asking them what I could do to get motivated. They just made fun of me and told me I was thankless.

I looked for people in my family who I could ask this question. Someone who could teach me how to get my motivation back. But there was no one that I knew who could help me. No one in my family, in my extended family, or in my parents generation who could help me.

I tried going on a vacation but that didn't work. While I was on vacation I kept thinking about the sad existence I was going to come back to. When I came back I was tired from the vacation and felt even worse.

I read all the books I could find to figure out how to get my motivation back. Some of what these books shared worked, but most of it didn't. Most of it was just hokey pokey and didn't really give me a step-by-step process to get passion or motivation back in life.

Something had to change.

Late one night, watching some late night TV, when I finally discovered the secret that helped me get my motivation back in life.

The Secret To Getting Your Passion And Motivation In Life

I don't remember what I was exactly watching - but I do remember that I had a clear path in front of me. I decided to give it a try for the next 30 days.

I didn't have anything to lose, so this was the best thing that I could do. The worst thing that could happen for me would be that I would lose 30 days and little bit of sweat.

I was willing to put that effort in - since this was better than the alternative.

Almost like a blinding light, I knew in my hearts of hearts, that this would work. I don't know how - I could not explain it to you - but I knew this would work.

Maybe I was just hoping against hope that my last ditch effort would work to get my motivation back.

I got up immediately and wrote down the exact plan to help me get my motivation back.

Here it is for you.

Why Should You Follow This 3 Step Process

If you follow this process here's what will happen for you.

In 30 days you will be more passionate about your life, your motivation will sky rocket, you will be able to do things that you thought were not possible for you and you will feel significantly better about doing this.

In 90 days you'll notice your life completely changed. You will become one of the most motivated people around.

Your friends will be amazed at the intense passion you have for living life and for doing the things that you want to do. They will start looking up to you for how to have more passion in their lives.

Your family will become extremely proud of you for finally "growing up" and grabbing life by the balls. They won't say it - but you'll know that this is what they are thinking.

You will become the child who is most praised at the dinners, the one the parents boast about, just because you've discovered a new found passion and motivation in life.

If you don't follow this process, here's what will happen to you instead.

In 30 days, you'll discover that you've become even more depressed. You will start feeling like a loser.

Even though you'll know the consequences of not doing things, you won't be able to move to do them because you'll be exhausted from a lack of passion.

Your friends will start ignoring you because you bring a bad vibe to the group. They will insult you and avoid you for being a passionless person with no motivation in life.

In the end your friends will start making plans without telling you and having fun without even inviting you to parties.

You family will start thinking of you as the "black sheep" of the family. Someone who is a party pooper, who brings down the collective mood of the family.

In the end your family will stop loving you and inviting you to family gatherings and events.

But before you lose all hope, let me share with you the exact process you can use to get passion and motivation in your life.

The 3 Step Process To Get Passion And Motivation In Life

Here is the 3 step process to get passion and motivation in your life.

Seven Blunders of the World

1. Wealth without work

2. Pleasure without conscience

3. Knowledge without character

4. Commerce without morality

5. Science without humanity

6. Worship without sacrifice

7. Politics without principle

—Mahatma Gandhi

Understand: Blaming has no positive effect

When you plant lettuce, if it does not grow well, you don’t blame the lettuce. You look for  reasons it is not doing well. It may need fertilizer, or more water, or less sun. You never blame the lettuce.
Yet if we have problems with our friends or family, we blame the other person. But if we know how to take care of them, they will grow well, like the lettuce. Blaming has no positive effect at all, nor does trying to persuade using reason and argument.
That is my experience.
No blame, no reasoning, no argument, just understanding.
If you understand, and you show that you understand, you can love, and the situation will change.
Thich Nhat Hanh

30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself

  1. Stop spending time with the wrong people. – Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you.  If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you.  You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot.  Never, ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth.  And remember, it’s not the people that stand by your side when you’re at your best, but the ones who stand beside you when you’re at your worst that are your true friends.
  2. Stop running from your problems. – Face them head on.  No, it won’t be easy.  There is no person in the world capable of flawlessly handling every punch thrown at them.  We aren’t supposed to be able to instantly solve problems.  That’s not how we’re made.  In fact, we’re made to get upset, sad, hurt, stumble and fall.  Because that’s the whole purpose of living – to face problems, learn, adapt, and solve them over the course of time.  This is what ultimately molds us into the person we become.
  3. Stop lying to yourself. – You can lie to anyone else in the world, but you can’t lie to yourself.  Our lives improve only when we take chances, and the first and most difficult chance we can take is to be honest with ourselves. 
  4. Stop putting your own needs on the back burner. – The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too.  Yes, help others; but help yourself too.  If there was ever a moment to follow your passion and do something that matters to you, that moment is now.

18 Rules of Living by the Dalai Lama

1. Take into account that great love and great achievements involve great risk.
2. When you lose, don't lose the lesson.
3. Follow the three Rs: 1. Respect for self 2. Respect for others 3. Responsibility for all your actions.
4. Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.
5. Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly.
6. Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship.7. When you realize you've made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.
8. Spend some time alone every day.
9. Open your arms to change, but don't let go of your values.
10. Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.

Habits of the World’s Wealthiest People (Infographic)

Do You Know Yourself ? Find out

If you haven't already, take this Psyche test.

You'll be amazed.

Read the following questions, imagining the scenes in your mind, and write down the FIRST thing that you visualize. Do not think about the questions excessively.

1. You are walking in the woods. Who are you walking with?

2. You are walking in the woods. You see an animal. What kind of animal is it?

3. What interaction takes place between you and the animal?

4. You walk deeper into the woods. You enter a clearing and before you is your dream house. Describe its size.

5. Is your dream house open, or surrounded by a fence?

6. You enter the house. You walk to the dining area and see the dining room table. Describe what you see on and around the table.

7. You exit the house through the back door. Lying in the grass is a cup. What material is the cup made of (ceramic, glass, paper, etc.)?

8. What do you do with the cup?

9. You walk to the edge of the property, where you find yourself standing at the edge of a body of water. What type of body of water is it ?

10. How will you cross the water?

This has been a relational psychology test. The answers given to the questions have been shown to have a relevance to values and ideals that we hold in our personal lives. The analysis follows.

The Seven Habits of Emotionally Healthy People

Most of us pay close attention to our health and we treat threats to our physical well-being as soon as they occur. We dress warmly when we feel a cold coming on, we apply antibacterial ointments and bandages to cuts and scrapes, and we don’t pick at scabs as they heal. We sustain psychological injuries in life just as often as we do physical ones, but we are much less proactive about protecting our psychological well-being, than we are our physical well-being. Adopting the following seven habits and ‘treating’ common psychological injuries when they occur will help protect your mental health and improve your emotional resilience.

1. Gain Control after a Failure: Failure distorts our perceptions such that our goals seem more out of reach and our capacities seem less up to the task. Once we feel as though there is little we can do to succeed, we become demoralized and lose our motivation. Adopt the habit of ignoring this misleading ‘gut’ reaction and make a list of the many factors related to your goal that were in your control (e.g., effort, preparation, planning, different approaches you could have taken, and others). Then, consider how you might go about improving each of these factors. Doing so will not only combat defeatist misperceptions, it will drastically improve your chances of future success.

6 Steps To Being More Creative

For most of my life I did not think of myself as creative at all. Then, many years ago, I started a greeting card company, despite that I had rarely purchased or sent greetings cards. My motivation was combining business with taking care of the environment, by making products from recycled paper. I found myself in a role where I needed to be very creative – in developing new products as well as how to distribute products. I also found that the act of leadership – my perspective about my role and the company's strategy required tremendous creativity.
Creativity is important for many reasons. It is a path and process for not getting stuck in old habits and ineffective ways of seeing yourself and the world. Creativity can help with problem solving, with creating healthier relationships, and with having a healthier and happier life.
What I learned is that creativity isn't something that you have or don't have. It is something that you can nurture and develop. Most importantly, creativity can be a practice. This is especially true for me in my current role (as the CEO of the Search Inside Yourself Leadership Institute) of helping business leaders to be both more effective and happy.
Here are the 6 steps that I began using, and find I'm using every day, not only in my work but especially in my relationships and my life outside of work These practices can be used to support the changing of habits and creating new habits. I'd suggest making the practice of creativity a habit that can support other habits. Here are some guidelines:
  1. Believe in your creativity – This is the first practice and probably most important. You might begin by thinking about or writing down three creative things you've done – something you have written or said or completed. Notice an area in which you feel creative; perhaps cooking, drawing, fixing things, gardening. Creativity can show itself in lots of small ways, such as the gifts we give, or the clothes we wear, or how we set the table. Just begin noticing and recognizing your own creativity.
  2. Know your voice of judgment – Everyone I've ever known has an inner judge. It can be difficult to accept that having an inner critic is part of the human condition. The good news is that this inner voice just wants to protect us and keep us safe, and that you don't need to be stuck with or thrown by these inner voices. Knowing this, try relaxing your inner judge. Give it a name. Be playful. Experiment. Despite your judgments, you have the ability to be creative.

Thought of the Day - Feb 15