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Healthy, Wealthy and Wise"},"subtitle":{"type":"html","$t":"Making you focus on Health, Wealth and Wisdom"},"link":[{"rel":"http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#feed","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"https:\/\/www.onepowerfulword.com\/feeds\/posts\/default"},{"rel":"self","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"https:\/\/www.blogger.com\/feeds\/38070791\/posts\/default\/-\/Related?alt=json-in-script\u0026max-results=10"},{"rel":"alternate","type":"text/html","href":"https:\/\/www.onepowerfulword.com\/search\/label\/Related"},{"rel":"hub","href":"http://pubsubhubbub.appspot.com/"},{"rel":"next","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"https:\/\/www.blogger.com\/feeds\/38070791\/posts\/default\/-\/Related\/-\/Related?alt=json-in-script\u0026start-index=11\u0026max-results=10"}],"author":[{"name":{"$t":"Unknown"},"email":{"$t":"noreply@blogger.com"},"gd$image":{"rel":"http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail","width":"16","height":"16","src":"https:\/\/img1.blogblog.com\/img\/b16-rounded.gif"}}],"generator":{"version":"7.00","uri":"http://www.blogger.com","$t":"Blogger"},"openSearch$totalResults":{"$t":"120"},"openSearch$startIndex":{"$t":"1"},"openSearch$itemsPerPage":{"$t":"10"},"entry":[{"id":{"$t":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38070791.post-1817165574045260147"},"published":{"$t":"2014-02-06T10:01:00.000-05:00"},"updated":{"$t":"2014-02-06T10:52:44.510-05:00"},"category":[{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Books"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"featured"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Related"}],"title":{"type":"text","$t":"How to Win Friends and Influence People"},"content":{"type":"html","$t":"\u003Cdiv dir=\"ltr\" style=\"text-align: left;\" trbidi=\"on\"\u003E\u003Ccenter\u003E\u003Ch3 style=\"text-align: start;\"\u003EThis is Dale Carnegie's summary of his book, from 1936\u003C\/h3\u003E\u003Chr style=\"text-align: start;\" \/\u003E\u003Ch2 align=\"center\"\u003E\u003Cb\u003ETable of Contents\u003C\/b\u003E\u003C\/h2\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"text-align: start;\"\u003E\u003Col\u003E\u003Cli\u003E\u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/www.onepowerfulword.com\/2007\/02\/how-to-win-friends-and-influence-people.html#one\"\u003EFundamental Techniques in Handling People\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/www.onepowerfulword.com\/2007\/02\/how-to-win-friends-and-influence-people.html#two\"\u003ESix Ways to Make People Like You\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/www.onepowerfulword.com\/2007\/02\/how-to-win-friends-and-influence-people.html#three\"\u003EHow to Win People to Your Way of Thinking\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/www.onepowerfulword.com\/2007\/02\/how-to-win-friends-and-influence-people.html#four\"\u003EBe a Leader: How to Change People Without Giving Offense or Arousing Resentment\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ol\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/center\u003E\u003Ccenter\u003E\u003Ci\u003E\u003Ca href=\"\" name=\"one\"\u003EPart One\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/i\u003E\u003C\/center\u003E\u003Ch2\u003EFundamental Techniques in Handling People\u003C\/h2\u003E\u003Col\u003E\u003Cli\u003EDon't criticize, condemn or complain.\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003EGive honest and sincere appreciation.\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003EArouse in the other person an eager want.\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ol\u003E\u003Chr \/\u003E\u003Cdiv align =\"center\"\u003E\u003C!-- adsense --\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ccenter\u003E\u003Ca href=\"\" name=\"two\"\u003E\u003Ci\u003EPart Two\u003C\/i\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/center\u003E\u003Ch2\u003ESix ways to make people like you\u003C\/h2\u003E\u003Col\u003E\u003Cli\u003EBecome genuinely interested in other people.\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003ESmile.\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003ERemember that a person's name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003EBe a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003ETalk in terms of the other person's interests.\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003EMake the other person feel important - and do it sincerely.\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ol\u003E\u003Chr \/\u003E\u003Ca name='more'\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Ccenter\u003E\u003Ca href=\"\" name=\"three\"\u003E\u003Ci\u003EPart Three\u003C\/i\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/center\u003E\u003Ch2\u003EWin people to your way of thinking\u003C\/h2\u003E\u003Col\u003E\u003Cli\u003EThe only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003EShow respect for the other person's opinions. Never say, \"You're wrong.\"\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003EIf you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003EBegin in a friendly way.\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003EGet the other person saying \"yes, yes\" immediately.\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003ELet the other person do a great deal of the talking.\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003ELet the other person feel that the idea is his or hers.\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003ETry honestly to see things from the other person's point of view.\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003EBe sympathetic with the other person's ideas and desires.\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003EAppeal to the nobler motives.\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003EDramatize your ideas.\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003EThrow down a challenge.\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ol\u003E\u003Chr \/\u003E\u003Ccenter\u003E\u003Ca href=\"\" name=\"four\"\u003E\u003Ci\u003EPart Four\u003C\/i\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/center\u003E\u003Ch2\u003EBe a Leader: How to Change People Without Giving Offense or Arousing Resentment\u003C\/h2\u003E\u003Ctt\u003E\u003C\/tt\u003E\u003Ctt\u003E\u003C\/tt\u003E\u003Ctt\u003E\u003C\/tt\u003EA leader's job often includes changing your people's attitudes and behavior. Some suggestions to accomplish this:\u003Ctt\u003E\u003C\/tt\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Col\u003E\u003Cli\u003EBegin with praise and honest appreciation.\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003ECall attention to people's mistakes indirectly.\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003ETalk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003EAsk questions instead of giving direct orders.\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003ELet the other person save face.\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003EPraise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement. Be \"hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise.\"\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003EGive the other person a fine reputation to live up to.\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003EUse encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct.\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003EMake the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest.\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ol\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E"},"link":[{"rel":"replies","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"https:\/\/www.onepowerfulword.com\/feeds\/1817165574045260147\/comments\/default","title":"Post Comments"},{"rel":"replies","type":"text/html","href":"https:\/\/www.onepowerfulword.com\/2007\/02\/how-to-win-friends-and-influence-people.html#comment-form","title":"2 Comments"},{"rel":"edit","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"https:\/\/www.blogger.com\/feeds\/38070791\/posts\/default\/1817165574045260147"},{"rel":"self","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"https:\/\/www.blogger.com\/feeds\/38070791\/posts\/default\/1817165574045260147"},{"rel":"alternate","type":"text/html","href":"https:\/\/www.onepowerfulword.com\/2007\/02\/how-to-win-friends-and-influence-people.html","title":"How to Win Friends and Influence People"}],"author":[{"name":{"$t":"Unknown"},"email":{"$t":"noreply@blogger.com"},"gd$image":{"rel":"http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail","width":"16","height":"16","src":"https:\/\/img1.blogblog.com\/img\/b16-rounded.gif"}}],"thr$total":{"$t":"2"}},{"id":{"$t":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38070791.post-6073844169475741937"},"published":{"$t":"2011-12-31T13:32:00.000-05:00"},"updated":{"$t":"2011-12-31T14:13:06.951-05:00"},"category":[{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"featured"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Life Lessons"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Related"}],"title":{"type":"text","$t":"14 Simple Resolutions For Extra-Ordinary 2012"},"content":{"type":"html","$t":"\u003Cdiv dir=\"ltr\" style=\"text-align: left;\" trbidi=\"on\"\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"\u003E\n\u003Cimg border=\"0\" src=\"http:\/\/2.bp.blogspot.com\/-vJfrtIbMV_E\/Tv9T8zbUB7I\/AAAAAAAABxQ\/mr1UhintcJc\/s1600\/new-years-resolution.png\" \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nOrdinary habits in life will always bring extra-ordinary results. Make a resolution\u0026nbsp;to become better than you were in 2011.\u0026nbsp;Scroll through these 14 simple rules and make \u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/54057fv5xd1-nbwn2o53rc4cai.hop.clickbank.net\/\" target=\"_blank\"\u003E2012 the best year ever\u003C\/a\u003E.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003C!-- Adsense --\u003E\u003Cb\u003E1. As you sow, so you reap\u003C\/b\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nThis has a lot of variation in different cultures but the bottom line is \"What you give is what you get\". Yes, your kindergarten teacher told you this. What you do to others is your karma, what they do to you is their karma. Don't be bothered by their karma, focus on your own story.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cb\u003E2. Play the lead role in your movie\u003C\/b\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nWrite your own script. Define your own dreams. Don't play a supporting role inside your head to someone's cause which you are not passionate about.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Ca name='more'\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cb\u003E3. Stop giving past more power than the present.\u003C\/b\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n I got fired. I still miss my ex. I feel hopeless because X did Y to me. I am miserable. The list of excuses never ends and to you it will always appear that your story is unique. Well it very well might be but its time to attach your emotions to the present and refer to point 2 above.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cb\u003E4. Worry will not solve our problem.\u003C\/b\u003E \u003Cb\u003EIt will make you weak.\u003C\/b\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n So dont worry, but acknowledge and accept. Then formulate your game plan which will take you to the desired result. Milk is spilled - either buy a new house or clean the spill. Stop fretting.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cb\u003E5. Belief is more powerful than dreams and hopes.\u003C\/b\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n We become what we believe.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cb\u003E6. The only prayer we need to say is \"Thank You\".\u003C\/b\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n I have written a lot about being grateful. We need to be reminded of this quite often.  \u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cb\u003E7. Stand up for what you feel you should do and is right for you.\u003C\/b\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n If you make a choice that goes against what everyone else thinks, the world will not fall apart.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cb\u003E8. Trust your instincts.\u003C\/b\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n Intuition doesn't lie. If you don't have instincts then meditate. You will develop them soon. \u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cb\u003E9. Love yourself\u003C\/b\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n and then learn to extend that love to others in every encounter.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cb\u003E10. Let passion drive your profession\u003C\/b\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nHard to implement. But once you eventually find it there will be no stopping you and you will not need an alarm clock to get up.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cb\u003E11. Every day brings a chance to start over.\u003C\/b\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n I need not say more. \u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cb\u003E12. Doubt means don't.\u003C\/b\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n Don't move. Don't answer. Don't rush forward.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cb\u003E13. When you don't know what to do, get still.\u003C\/b\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n The answer will come. Playfulness will always lead you to a solution. Enjoy the process.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cb\u003E14. Trouble don't last always.\u003C\/b\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n This too shall pass.\u003C\/div\u003E"},"link":[{"rel":"replies","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"https:\/\/www.onepowerfulword.com\/feeds\/6073844169475741937\/comments\/default","title":"Post Comments"},{"rel":"replies","type":"text/html","href":"https:\/\/www.onepowerfulword.com\/2009\/12\/14-things-i-want-to-remember-in-2010.html#comment-form","title":"0 Comments"},{"rel":"edit","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"https:\/\/www.blogger.com\/feeds\/38070791\/posts\/default\/6073844169475741937"},{"rel":"self","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"https:\/\/www.blogger.com\/feeds\/38070791\/posts\/default\/6073844169475741937"},{"rel":"alternate","type":"text/html","href":"https:\/\/www.onepowerfulword.com\/2009\/12\/14-things-i-want-to-remember-in-2010.html","title":"14 Simple Resolutions For Extra-Ordinary 2012"}],"author":[{"name":{"$t":"Unknown"},"email":{"$t":"noreply@blogger.com"},"gd$image":{"rel":"http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail","width":"16","height":"16","src":"https:\/\/img1.blogblog.com\/img\/b16-rounded.gif"}}],"media$thumbnail":{"xmlns$media":"http://search.yahoo.com/mrss/","url":"http:\/\/2.bp.blogspot.com\/-vJfrtIbMV_E\/Tv9T8zbUB7I\/AAAAAAAABxQ\/mr1UhintcJc\/s72-c\/new-years-resolution.png","height":"72","width":"72"},"thr$total":{"$t":"0"}},{"id":{"$t":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38070791.post-6596634677058840237"},"published":{"$t":"2011-12-24T07:11:00.000-05:00"},"updated":{"$t":"2011-12-25T01:05:10.388-05:00"},"category":[{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Book"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Related"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Success"}],"title":{"type":"text","$t":"23 Must Read Books in 2012"},"content":{"type":"html","$t":"\u003Cdiv dir=\"ltr\" style=\"text-align: left;\" trbidi=\"on\"\u003E\nWhen you're looking for advice on how to create a successful and rewarding life, why not get the answers from those who have \"been there, done that?\" These thought leaders and business experts used the principles of positive mental attitude and experienced a lifetime of rewards.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nWe encourage you to find a book that interests you and carve out a few minutes every day to read at least a few pages. You'll be amazed at the difference it will make in your journey toward success! You can also check these\u0026nbsp;\u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/www.amazon.com\/gp\/redirect.html?ie=UTF8\u0026amp;location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2Fgp%2Frichpub%2Flistmania%2Ffullview%2FR1FO0C42T7BI9F%3Fie%3DUTF8%26lm%255Fbb%3D\u0026amp;tag=fansofclintge-20\u0026amp;linkCode=ur2\u0026amp;camp=1789\u0026amp;creative=9325\"\u003E23 books on Amazon Listmania\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003Ca name='more'\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C!-- adsense --\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cspan style=\"font-weight: bold;\"\u003EHow to Win Friends and Influence People,\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-weight: bold;\"\u003E \u003C\/span\u003EDale Carnegie (Pocket Books, 1998)\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/bp0.blogger.com\/_OQgYQ9CsO80\/SBdxm_-ckcI\/AAAAAAAAAlc\/RoCPcZ-4ggM\/s1600-h\/51JDKW8TV1L._SS500_.jpg\"\u003E\u003Cimg alt=\"\" border=\"0\" id=\"BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5194745610017477058\" src=\"http:\/\/bp0.blogger.com\/_OQgYQ9CsO80\/SBdxm_-ckcI\/AAAAAAAAAlc\/RoCPcZ-4ggM\/s400\/51JDKW8TV1L._SS500_.jpg\" style=\"border: medium none; cursor: pointer; float: left; height: 218px; width: 218px;\" \/\u003E\u003C\/a\u003EFirst published in 1937, How to Win Friends and Influence People was an overnight success with staying power. Today, this book is regarded as one of the all-time best for its lessons on dealing with people.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nThe reality of Carnegie's teachings is that none will work if the intent is manipulation. Only with authenticity and honesty will Carnegie's methods work consistently.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C!-- More --\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nCarnegie's book is a classic. Though he credits many people for inspiring his ideas, his methods are the foundation for many of today's personal-development and business-management books.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cspan style=\"font-weight: bold;\"\u003EThe Richest Man in Babylon\u003C\/span\u003E, George S. Clason(BNP Books, 2007)\u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/bp1.blogger.com\/_OQgYQ9CsO80\/SBdyOP-ckoI\/AAAAAAAAAm8\/ad4jVCQ8OMg\/s1600-h\/clason-richest-man-in-babylon.jpg\"\u003E\u003Cimg alt=\"\" border=\"0\" id=\"BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5194746284327342722\" src=\"http:\/\/bp1.blogger.com\/_OQgYQ9CsO80\/SBdyOP-ckoI\/AAAAAAAAAm8\/ad4jVCQ8OMg\/s400\/clason-richest-man-in-babylon.jpg\" style=\"border: medium none; cursor: pointer; float: left; height: 220px; padding: 2em; width: 180px;\" \/\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nToo often, life doesn't turn out as expected. And money, or the lack of money, plays a large role in people's ability to handle life's ups and downs. Perhaps that's why, in the 1920s, banks and insurance companies decided to distribute short parables written to educate people on important financial principles. The Richest Man in Babylon began in 1926 as a series of pamphlets, the most famous ones later compiled into one of the best-loved money guides of all time.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nWith time-tested principles and an engaging format, The Richest Man in Babylon is an excellent introduction to finance, and a classic.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cspan style=\"font-weight: bold;\"\u003EThink and Grow Rich, \u003C\/span\u003ENapoleon Hill(Aventine Press, 2004)\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/bp0.blogger.com\/_OQgYQ9CsO80\/SBdx-_-cklI\/AAAAAAAAAmk\/F0yJvXbSHcQ\/s1600-h\/0449214923.jpg\"\u003E\u003Cimg alt=\"\" border=\"0\" id=\"BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5194746022334337618\" src=\"http:\/\/bp0.blogger.com\/_OQgYQ9CsO80\/SBdx-_-cklI\/AAAAAAAAAmk\/F0yJvXbSHcQ\/s400\/0449214923.jpg\" style=\"border-bottom-style: none; border-bottom-width: medium; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-style: none; border-left-width: medium; border-right-style: none; border-right-width: medium; border-top-style: none; border-top-width: medium; float: left; height: 272px; padding-bottom: 1em; padding-left: 1em; padding-right: 1em; padding-top: 1em; width: 148px;\" \/\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nNapoleon Hill, inspired by business legend Andrew Carnegie, spent 20 years of his life studying the lives of some of history's most successful people. The culmination of his research was the in-depth series, The Laws of Success. In 1937, Hill published another book, Think and Grow Rich, founded on the same philosophies of success. This book condensed the wealth of knowledge he's accumulated into 13 principles for successful living.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nThink and Grow Rich is a timeless classic that should be read by everyone interested in improving their lives and reaching their goals.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cspan style=\"font-weight: bold;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cspan style=\"font-weight: bold;\"\u003E9 Steps to Financial Freedom, \u003C\/span\u003ESuze Orman(Crown, 1997)\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/bp3.blogger.com\/_OQgYQ9CsO80\/SBdxmv-ckaI\/AAAAAAAAAlM\/TlvKhFM9NxI\/s1600-h\/9-steps+to+freedom.jpg\"\u003E\u003Cimg alt=\"\" border=\"0\" id=\"BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5194745605722509730\" src=\"http:\/\/bp3.blogger.com\/_OQgYQ9CsO80\/SBdxmv-ckaI\/AAAAAAAAAlM\/TlvKhFM9NxI\/s400\/9-steps+to+freedom.jpg\" style=\"border: medium none; cursor: pointer; float: left; height: 238px; padding: 1em; width: 144px;\" \/\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nAs a financial expert, Suze Orman offers advice on the nuts and bolts of managing money. But whether you're watching her on television or reading her advice in O, The Oprah Magazine, or in one of her best-selling books, such as 9 Steps to Financial Freedom, her message is clear: Wealth is an attitude and money isn't the key to acquiring true financial freedom.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nAcquiring wealth isn't as simple as piling up the green stuff. Your beliefs about money, yourself and the world around you have as much to do with wealth as do the riches you acquire.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cspan style=\"font-weight: bold;\"\u003EThe 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, \u003C\/span\u003EStephen R. Covey(Free Press, 1989)\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/bp1.blogger.com\/_OQgYQ9CsO80\/SBdybP-ckuI\/AAAAAAAAAns\/rG5gpJj1y_4\/s1600-h\/stephen-covey-7-habits+of+highly+effective+people.jpg\"\u003E\u003Cimg alt=\"\" border=\"0\" id=\"BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5194746507665642210\" src=\"http:\/\/bp1.blogger.com\/_OQgYQ9CsO80\/SBdybP-ckuI\/AAAAAAAAAns\/rG5gpJj1y_4\/s400\/stephen-covey-7-habits+of+highly+effective+people.jpg\" style=\"border: medium none; cursor: pointer; float: left; height: 291px; padding: 1em; width: 191px;\" \/\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nWhile Stephen Covey wasn't the first to write a book on becoming a better, more effective person, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People marked the beginning of a revitalized interest in personal development.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nThe habits are divided into three sections: Private Victory, Public Victory and Renewal. Private Victory focuses on the individual's view of himself. The first three habits are: becoming proactive, beginning with the end in mind, and putting first things first. These habits will challenge you to take responsibility for your thoughts, beliefs and actions. The Public Victory section focuses on creating meaningful, mutually beneficial relationships. And because being effective requires energy and focus, the seventh habit, \"Sharpening the Saw,\" encourages you to engage in activities that promote mental and physical renewal.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nCovey says that when our behavior contradicts our beliefs or when our relationships consistently fail, any successes we achieve feel hollow. This book takes a total approach to success and encourages growth and maturity beginning with self, which leads to stronger relationships and greater success at home and at work.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cspan style=\"font-weight: bold;\"\u003ELaws of Success, \u003C\/span\u003ENapoleon Hill(Combined Registry Co., 1966)\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/bp1.blogger.com\/_OQgYQ9CsO80\/SBdxnP-ckdI\/AAAAAAAAAlk\/emUnLatINkE\/s1600-h\/51SQ2C6M05L._SS500_.jpg\"\u003E\u003Cimg alt=\"\" border=\"0\" id=\"BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5194745614312444370\" src=\"http:\/\/bp1.blogger.com\/_OQgYQ9CsO80\/SBdxnP-ckdI\/AAAAAAAAAlk\/emUnLatINkE\/s400\/51SQ2C6M05L._SS500_.jpg\" style=\"border: medium none; cursor: pointer; float: left; height: 217px; padding: 1em; width: 217px;\" \/\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nTwenty-six years of research, including interviews with more than 500 self-made millionaires, laid the foundation for this massive collection. After studying the methods and accomplishments of masterminds such as Thomas Edison, John D. Rockefeller, Henry Ford, Andrew Carnegie, Theodore Roosevelt and Alexander Graham Bell, Napoleon Hill compiled what he learned, offering it to the world as the Laws of Success.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cspan style=\"font-weight: bold;\"\u003EAcres of Diamonds, \u003C\/span\u003ERussell H. Conwell(Filiquarian, 2007)\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/bp0.blogger.com\/_OQgYQ9CsO80\/SBdxx_-ckiI\/AAAAAAAAAmM\/vJhq5HIgwAQ\/s1600-h\/29224.gif.jpg\"\u003E\u003Cimg alt=\"\" border=\"0\" id=\"BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5194745798996038178\" src=\"http:\/\/bp0.blogger.com\/_OQgYQ9CsO80\/SBdxx_-ckiI\/AAAAAAAAAmM\/vJhq5HIgwAQ\/s400\/29224.gif.jpg\" style=\"border: medium none; cursor: pointer; float: left; height: 235px; padding: 1em; width: 164px;\" \/\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nOpportunities for success, wealth and happiness often lie under foot and yet go unnoticed. This little book, originally a speech by Russell Conwell, serves as a reminder not to overlook the abundance right on our doorstep.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nThis timeless work is freely available online, in both written and audio formats, and addresses the myth that fame and fortune are waiting somewhere \"out there.\" He also dispels the notion that men and women of integrity shouldn't desire money or wealth. \"Money is power, and you ought to be reasonably ambitious to have it. You ought because you can do more good with it than you could without it,\" Conwell said. And to that end, he advises readers to begin searching for the diamonds in their lives… at home.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cspan style=\"font-weight: bold;\"\u003EAs a Man Thinketh, \u003C\/span\u003EJames Allen(Filiquarian, 2007)\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/bp0.blogger.com\/_OQgYQ9CsO80\/SBd2u_-ckwI\/AAAAAAAAAn8\/zblMOA58IPc\/s1600-h\/AsAManThinketh.jpg\"\u003E\u003Cimg alt=\"\" border=\"0\" id=\"BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5194751245014569730\" src=\"http:\/\/bp0.blogger.com\/_OQgYQ9CsO80\/SBd2u_-ckwI\/AAAAAAAAAn8\/zblMOA58IPc\/s400\/AsAManThinketh.jpg\" style=\"border: medium none; cursor: pointer; float: left; height: 197px; margin: 0pt 10px 10px 0pt; padding: 1em; width: 166px;\" \/\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nPublished in 1902, \"This little volume\" as James Allen refers to it, has been a source of inspiration for millions and has influenced the work of many respected personal-development leaders. And with statements such as, \"The soul attracts that which it secretly harbors, that which it loves, and also that which it fears,\" Allen paved the way for many contemporary philosophers.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nAt its core is the belief that \"as a man thinketh in his heart, so is he.\" \u0026nbsp;This book, now in the public domain and freely accessible on the Internet, should be in every achiever's library.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cspan style=\"font-weight: bold;\"\u003EMaximum Achievement, \u003C\/span\u003EBrian Tracy(Simon \u0026amp; Schuster, 1995)\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/bp2.blogger.com\/_OQgYQ9CsO80\/SBdyOf-ckqI\/AAAAAAAAAnM\/a4cbM_pDWg0\/s1600-h\/maximum+achievement+bt.jpg\"\u003E\u003Cimg alt=\"\" border=\"0\" id=\"BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5194746288622310050\" src=\"http:\/\/bp2.blogger.com\/_OQgYQ9CsO80\/SBdyOf-ckqI\/AAAAAAAAAnM\/a4cbM_pDWg0\/s400\/maximum+achievement+bt.jpg\" style=\"border: medium none; cursor: pointer; float: left; height: 198px; padding: 1em; width: 176px;\" \/\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nAs suggested by this book's subtitle, \"Strategies and skills that will unlock your hidden powers to succeed,\" it's likely you already possess what's required to create success in your life.\u0026nbsp;Learn how to create success that encompasses every area of life-health, personal and professional happiness, relationships and wealth. Whether you're already on the road to success or just getting started on your success journey, the principles outlined in the book will help you realize your true potential. Build the life you want and attain the peace of mind that comes with the knowledge that you control your destiny.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cspan style=\"font-weight: bold;\"\u003EThe Seasons of Life, \u003C\/span\u003EJim Rohn \u0026amp; Ronald Reynolds(Jim Rohn International, 1981)\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/bp3.blogger.com\/_OQgYQ9CsO80\/SBdxmv-ckbI\/AAAAAAAAAlU\/O31SISynKcI\/s1600-h\/31_l.jpg\"\u003E\u003Cimg alt=\"\" border=\"0\" id=\"BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5194745605722509746\" src=\"http:\/\/bp3.blogger.com\/_OQgYQ9CsO80\/SBdxmv-ckbI\/AAAAAAAAAlU\/O31SISynKcI\/s400\/31_l.jpg\" style=\"border: medium none; cursor: pointer; float: left; padding: 1em;\" \/\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nIn The Seasons of Life, Jim Rohn and Ronald Reynolds draw parallels between life and the changing seasons. When you learn that change is the only guarantee, you can make the most of each season as it comes into your life.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nIt's possible to learn and grow from every experience. The authors help readers understand that every season is necessary and valuable-even winter, when life seems harsh and your actions unfruitful.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cspan style=\"font-weight: bold;\"\u003ESee You at the Top, \u003C\/span\u003EZig Ziglar(Pelican Publishing Company, 2000)\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/bp3.blogger.com\/_OQgYQ9CsO80\/SBdyOv-cksI\/AAAAAAAAAnc\/Ckw-hAkNq7I\/s1600-h\/see_you_at_the_top.jpg\"\u003E\u003Cimg alt=\"\" border=\"0\" id=\"BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5194746292917277378\" src=\"http:\/\/bp3.blogger.com\/_OQgYQ9CsO80\/SBdyOv-cksI\/AAAAAAAAAnc\/Ckw-hAkNq7I\/s400\/see_you_at_the_top.jpg\" style=\"border: medium none; cursor: pointer; float: left; height: 176px; padding: 1em; width: 116px;\" \/\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nZiglar offers a nuts-and-bolts approach to developing the self-image, attitudes and habits that make people successful. Learn how to set and achieve goals, how to create momentum that propels you forward in life and why being focused on others is a critical aspect of success. This step-by-step guide will help you excel in every area of life.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cspan style=\"font-weight: bold;\"\u003EThe Magic of Thinking Big, \u003C\/span\u003EDavid J. Schwartz(Pocket Books, 1995)\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/bp0.blogger.com\/_OQgYQ9CsO80\/SBdxx_-ckhI\/AAAAAAAAAmE\/vz_esSeqpM4\/s1600-h\/5182S3SJ5SL._SS500_.jpg\"\u003E\u003Cimg alt=\"\" border=\"0\" id=\"BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5194745798996038162\" src=\"http:\/\/bp0.blogger.com\/_OQgYQ9CsO80\/SBdxx_-ckhI\/AAAAAAAAAmE\/vz_esSeqpM4\/s400\/5182S3SJ5SL._SS500_.jpg\" style=\"border: medium none; cursor: pointer; float: left; height: 146px; padding: 1em; width: 146px;\" \/\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nThinking big separates the achievers from the average. In this best-selling classic, David Schwartz suggests that it's not necessarily intelligence or work ethic that move people up the ladder of success, but the personal choice people make to believe that something bigger and better is possible.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nMake time to reflect on your life's goals and expand them. Once you have a clear picture of what you want, focus your energy on achieving that goal. Keep your eyes fixed on your goal and do not allow the small thinking of the world around you to cloud your vision. Schwartz offers practical advice for putting the magic of thinking big to work in your life.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cspan style=\"font-weight: bold;\"\u003EThe Power of Positive Thinking, \u003C\/span\u003ENorman Vincent Peale(Fireside, 2007)\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/bp1.blogger.com\/_OQgYQ9CsO80\/SBdx_P-ckmI\/AAAAAAAAAms\/Nk84VEPGAh8\/s1600-h\/0762412550.jpg\"\u003E\u003Cimg alt=\"\" border=\"0\" id=\"BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5194746026629304930\" src=\"http:\/\/bp1.blogger.com\/_OQgYQ9CsO80\/SBdx_P-ckmI\/AAAAAAAAAms\/Nk84VEPGAh8\/s400\/0762412550.jpg\" style=\"border: medium none; cursor: pointer; float: left; height: 184px; padding: 1em; width: 153px;\" \/\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nThe book teaches readers that focused, intentional and unyielding belief is required before they can achieve the lives they desire.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nThe philosophies from this best-selling book have helped millions reach their personal, financial, spiritual and relationship goals. Learn to replace negative thoughts with positive beliefs and to break the worry habit by cultivating a character that isn't swayed by circumstances.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cspan style=\"font-weight: bold;\"\u003EAwaken the Giant Within,\u003C\/span\u003E Anthony Robbins(Free Press, 1992)\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/bp3.blogger.com\/_OQgYQ9CsO80\/SBdxxv-ckfI\/AAAAAAAAAl0\/IwnbLUONBno\/s1600-h\/123.jpg\"\u003E\u003Cimg alt=\"\" border=\"0\" id=\"BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5194745794701070834\" src=\"http:\/\/bp3.blogger.com\/_OQgYQ9CsO80\/SBdxxv-ckfI\/AAAAAAAAAl0\/IwnbLUONBno\/s400\/123.jpg\" style=\"border: medium none; cursor: pointer; float: left; height: 177px; padding: 1em; width: 115px;\" \/\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nNot one to do things in a small way, Robbins found huge success, lost it all and then, using the techniques outlined in this book, took control of his life and his success. This personal-development classic delves into the specifics of goal-setting, achieving success in relationships, talking to yourself and discovering your true potential.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cspan style=\"font-weight: bold;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cspan style=\"font-weight: bold;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nDeveloping the Leader Within You, \u003C\/span\u003EJohn C. Maxwell(Thomas Nelson, 2005)\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/bp3.blogger.com\/_OQgYQ9CsO80\/SBdx-v-ckkI\/AAAAAAAAAmc\/NWzOPM4MMfw\/s1600-h\/7838106.jpg\"\u003E\u003Cimg alt=\"\" border=\"0\" id=\"BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5194746018039370306\" src=\"http:\/\/bp3.blogger.com\/_OQgYQ9CsO80\/SBdx-v-ckkI\/AAAAAAAAAmc\/NWzOPM4MMfw\/s400\/7838106.jpg\" style=\"border: medium none; cursor: pointer; float: left; height: 214px; padding: 1em; width: 141px;\" \/\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nDeveloping the Leader Within You makes the theories of leadership personal. For those struggling to take the next step in their careers or who doubt their leadership abilities, the book offers practical methods for developing leadership skills.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nRecognizing that some people have innate leadership-personality traits, the book provides direction for becoming more effective. But John Maxwell's book debunks the myth that only an exclusive few are born to be leaders. Instead, he suggests that everyone benefits from learning self-discipline, seeking mentors and adding to their skills through training.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cspan style=\"font-weight: bold;\"\u003EThe One Minute Manager, \u003C\/span\u003EKenneth Blanchard(HarperCollins Business, 2000)\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/bp3.blogger.com\/_OQgYQ9CsO80\/SBdyOv-ckrI\/AAAAAAAAAnU\/SXVSij4VxJs\/s1600-h\/oneminute.jpg\"\u003E\u003Cimg alt=\"\" border=\"0\" id=\"BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5194746292917277362\" src=\"http:\/\/bp3.blogger.com\/_OQgYQ9CsO80\/SBdyOv-ckrI\/AAAAAAAAAnU\/SXVSij4VxJs\/s400\/oneminute.jpg\" style=\"border: medium none; cursor: pointer; float: left; height: 167px; padding: 1em; width: 109px;\" \/\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nApply the principals taught in The One Minute Manager and watch your team's productivity and job satisfaction grow. This allegorical tale pulls together the wisdom gained through experience, allowing readers to prosper without making their predecessors' mistakes.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nThe One Minute management style allows leaders to be efficient and effective with their time. The short chapters in this easy read focus on interaction between managers and their teams. By setting goals that encourage, redirecting, reprimanding and praising appropriately, leaders can get more from their teams while earning their respect.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cspan style=\"font-weight: bold;\"\u003EGood to Great: Why Some Companies Make the Leap... and Others Don't, \u003C\/span\u003EJim Collins\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/bp3.blogger.com\/_OQgYQ9CsO80\/SBdxxv-ckgI\/AAAAAAAAAl8\/iN66USQ5vy0\/s1600-h\/297.jpg\"\u003E\u003Cimg alt=\"\" border=\"0\" id=\"BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5194745794701070850\" src=\"http:\/\/bp3.blogger.com\/_OQgYQ9CsO80\/SBdxxv-ckgI\/AAAAAAAAAl8\/iN66USQ5vy0\/s400\/297.jpg\" style=\"border: medium none; cursor: pointer; float: left; height: 280px; padding: 1em; width: 184px;\" \/\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E(Collins, 2001)\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nIf good is the enemy of great, can good companies become great? And if so, how is that transition made with lasting effect? These are some of the questions central to the research that led to the publication of Good to Great.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nFive years of investigation uncovered the characteristics that made uncommonly great companies outshine their competition and earn significantly higher profits. Comparing the differentiating traits of good companies and their great counterparts, Jim Collins and his research team learned that, among other things, leaders who willingly work with their heads and hearts, rather than their egos, are required to take a company from good to great. Such leaders create the foundation for the culture and sustainable results that propel an organization to excellence.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cspan style=\"font-weight: bold;\"\u003EThe Automatic Millionaire, \u003C\/span\u003EDavid Bach(Broadway, 2003)\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/bp1.blogger.com\/_OQgYQ9CsO80\/SBdx_P-cknI\/AAAAAAAAAm0\/kHcEKdATVPg\/s1600-h\/automaticmillionaire1.jpg\"\u003E\u003Cimg alt=\"\" border=\"0\" id=\"BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5194746026629304946\" src=\"http:\/\/bp1.blogger.com\/_OQgYQ9CsO80\/SBdx_P-cknI\/AAAAAAAAAm0\/kHcEKdATVPg\/s400\/automaticmillionaire1.jpg\" style=\"border: medium none; cursor: pointer; float: left; height: 245px; padding: 1em; width: 158px;\" \/\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nWho wouldn't want to become a millionaire automatically? The truths related in this book, as in Bach's Finish Rich series, are that nothing great is accomplished without forethought. But with a little planning and by putting many aspects of your finances on autopilot, you can be on the road to wealth.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nThe automatic aspect plan allows readers to save time while saving money. And though many of the principles aren't new, Bach's easy-to-understand approach helps the reader understand them in a new way. Some of the highlights include principles such as paying yourself first, and advice about why and how to save for retirement-even if you're hard-pressed to make ends meet now. Bach also provides advice for accomplishing short-term savings goals and explains that giving is an important part of wealth.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cspan style=\"font-weight: bold;\"\u003ERich Dad Poor Dad, \u003C\/span\u003ERobert T. Kiyosaki(Time Warner Paperbacks, 2002)\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/bp1.blogger.com\/_OQgYQ9CsO80\/SBdyOP-ckpI\/AAAAAAAAAnE\/XzwxrwaxiLg\/s1600-h\/kiyosaki-rich-dad.jpg\"\u003E\u003Cimg alt=\"\" border=\"0\" id=\"BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5194746284327342738\" src=\"http:\/\/bp1.blogger.com\/_OQgYQ9CsO80\/SBdyOP-ckpI\/AAAAAAAAAnE\/XzwxrwaxiLg\/s400\/kiyosaki-rich-dad.jpg\" style=\"border: medium none; cursor: pointer; float: left; height: 248px; padding: 1em; width: 170px;\" \/\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nThe paradigm shift related to work, employment and entrepreneurship has been a long time coming. In one of his most-read books, Rich Dad Poor Dad, Robert Kiyosaki reveals the value of taking control of your financial destiny through entrepreneurship and investing.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nIn Rich Dad Poor Dad, Kiyosaki contrasts the differences between what the rich and the poor or middle classes teach their children. As a young man, Kiyosaki was taught by his \"poor dad\" to follow the path of least resistance: Get an education, get a job and work hard. His \"rich dad,\" his friend's dad, mentored him to do the opposite. The book acknowledges education is important but it isn't always best received in a formal learning environment. Lessons include the value of self-employment, how to be self-employed without limiting yourself to the constraints of an employee, and how to create and take advantage of residual-income opportunities. Instead of working hard for money, use the principles in this book to make money work for you.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cspan style=\"font-weight: bold;\"\u003EThe Greatest Salesman in the World, \u003C\/span\u003EOg Mandino(Frederick Fell Publishers, 2001)\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/bp2.blogger.com\/_OQgYQ9CsO80\/SBdx-f-ckjI\/AAAAAAAAAmU\/-5uQXPL67KM\/s1600-h\/2840225b9da0c9185446b010._AA240_.L.jpg\"\u003E\u003Cimg alt=\"\" border=\"0\" id=\"BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5194746013744402994\" src=\"http:\/\/bp2.blogger.com\/_OQgYQ9CsO80\/SBdx-f-ckjI\/AAAAAAAAAmU\/-5uQXPL67KM\/s400\/2840225b9da0c9185446b010._AA240_.L.jpg\" style=\"border: medium none; cursor: pointer; float: left; height: 170px; padding: 1em; width: 170px;\" \/\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nTen ancient scrolls hold the key to wealth and happiness in this classic parable. A young camel boy wishing to improve his station in life takes his master's words to heart: \"No other trade or profession has more opportunity for one to rise from poverty to great wealth than that of a salesman.\" Desiring success and wealth, the young man sets out to become the greatest salesman in the world.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nThis pocket-sized book can be read easily in an hour, but it's packed with wisdom for those pursuing a career in sales. Far more than a how-to book on closing the sale, the story encourages the reader to contribute to society and to grow in peace of mind and in heart. Those who apply the principles in the scrolls will learn how to overcome the challenges of sales, how to persist through trials and, ultimately, how to succeed.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cspan style=\"font-weight: bold;\"\u003EThe Sales Bible, \u003C\/span\u003EJeffrey Gitomer (Wiley, 2003)\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/bp2.blogger.com\/_OQgYQ9CsO80\/SBdxxf-ckeI\/AAAAAAAAAls\/SLCp43nP9Yw\/s1600-h\/66.jpg\"\u003E\u003Cimg alt=\"\" border=\"0\" id=\"BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5194745790406103522\" src=\"http:\/\/bp2.blogger.com\/_OQgYQ9CsO80\/SBdxxf-ckeI\/AAAAAAAAAls\/SLCp43nP9Yw\/s400\/66.jpg\" style=\"border: medium none; cursor: pointer; float: left; height: 232px; padding: 1em; width: 155px;\" \/\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nJeffrey Gitomer has an extremely low tolerance for lamenting salespeople and that comes through in the bold and fast-paced tone of his books. The Sales Bible puts more than 100 sales facts, tips and solutions at your disposal to help you \"make sales while others are whining!\"\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nThis book magnifies the details of every aspect of sales. Learn the basics and understand how recent changes in selling affect you and your pitch. Discover the keys to setting yourself apart from the competition and finding your prospect's button. The table of contents is designed to help you quickly identify specific topics. Or just start reading from cover to cover for an excellent education from someone who knows the profession from the inside out.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cspan style=\"font-weight: bold;\"\u003EWho Moved My Cheese?, \u003C\/span\u003EDr. Spencer Johnson(Vermilion, 2002)\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/bp2.blogger.com\/_OQgYQ9CsO80\/SBdybf-ckvI\/AAAAAAAAAn0\/C0EBMKwIwv8\/s1600-h\/who-moved-my-cheese.jpg\"\u003E\u003Cimg alt=\"\" border=\"0\" id=\"BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5194746511960609522\" src=\"http:\/\/bp2.blogger.com\/_OQgYQ9CsO80\/SBdybf-ckvI\/AAAAAAAAAn0\/C0EBMKwIwv8\/s400\/who-moved-my-cheese.jpg\" style=\"border: medium none; cursor: pointer; float: left; height: 209px; padding: 1em; width: 136px;\" \/\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nFor many people, change can be challenging. It can cause fear, anger and the feeling of being out of control. This popular parable examines change and what happens to those who choose not to embrace it.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\"If you do not change, you can become extinct,\" is one of the many truisms the characters learn in Who Moved My Cheese? What's holding you back? Are you taking note of small changes that could lead to more significant changes in the future? In the maze of life, it's possible to successfully deal with change if and when you clear your mind of expectations and understand that while your comfort zone may be cozy, it's not necessarily the safest place to live.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cspan style=\"font-weight: bold;\"\u003ESuccess through a Positive Mental Attitude, \u003C\/span\u003ENapoleon Hill and W. Clement Stone (Pocket\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/bp0.blogger.com\/_OQgYQ9CsO80\/SBdyZ_-cktI\/AAAAAAAAAnk\/0gH8PXjdi-c\/s1600-h\/stapma.jpg\"\u003E\u003Cimg alt=\"\" border=\"0\" id=\"BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5194746486190805714\" src=\"http:\/\/bp0.blogger.com\/_OQgYQ9CsO80\/SBdyZ_-cktI\/AAAAAAAAAnk\/0gH8PXjdi-c\/s400\/stapma.jpg\" style=\"border: medium none; cursor: pointer; float: left; padding: 1em;\" \/\u003E\u003C\/a\u003EBooks, 1991)\u003Cspan style=\"font-weight: bold;\"\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nSuccess through a Positive Mental Attitude was first published in 1960, written by two of history's greatest personal-development leaders, Napoleon Hill and W. Clement Stone. For almost half a century, this book has been the launching point for those who want to change the direction of their lives.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nHill and Stone recognize that each person has their own definition of success. But whether your desire is to build great wealth, own profitable organizations or be a world-renowned artist, the authors point out, \"You have everything to gain and nothing to lose by trying. Success is achieved and maintained by those who keep trying with a [positive mental attitude].\"\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nThis book addresses all areas of life. From getting the job you want to building better relationships with those around you to living healthier longer (Stone lived to be 100 years old!), this book takes an inclusive approach to success, beginning with your state of mind.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E"},"link":[{"rel":"replies","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"https:\/\/www.onepowerfulword.com\/feeds\/6596634677058840237\/comments\/default","title":"Post Comments"},{"rel":"replies","type":"text/html","href":"https:\/\/www.onepowerfulword.com\/2008\/04\/25-must-read-books-for-achievers.html#comment-form","title":"2 Comments"},{"rel":"edit","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"https:\/\/www.blogger.com\/feeds\/38070791\/posts\/default\/6596634677058840237"},{"rel":"self","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"https:\/\/www.blogger.com\/feeds\/38070791\/posts\/default\/6596634677058840237"},{"rel":"alternate","type":"text/html","href":"https:\/\/www.onepowerfulword.com\/2008\/04\/25-must-read-books-for-achievers.html","title":"23 Must Read Books in 2012"}],"author":[{"name":{"$t":"Unknown"},"email":{"$t":"noreply@blogger.com"},"gd$image":{"rel":"http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail","width":"16","height":"16","src":"https:\/\/img1.blogblog.com\/img\/b16-rounded.gif"}}],"media$thumbnail":{"xmlns$media":"http://search.yahoo.com/mrss/","url":"http:\/\/bp0.blogger.com\/_OQgYQ9CsO80\/SBdxm_-ckcI\/AAAAAAAAAlc\/RoCPcZ-4ggM\/s72-c\/51JDKW8TV1L._SS500_.jpg","height":"72","width":"72"},"thr$total":{"$t":"2"}},{"id":{"$t":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38070791.post-6599983140254828415"},"published":{"$t":"2011-11-15T00:30:00.000-05:00"},"updated":{"$t":"2011-11-15T00:44:12.986-05:00"},"category":[{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"featured"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Mark Cuban"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Related"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Success"}],"title":{"type":"text","$t":"11 Success Lessons from Billionaire Mark Cuban"},"content":{"type":"html","$t":"\u003Cdiv class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"\u003E\u003Cimg border=\"0\" height=\"320\" src=\"http:\/\/2.bp.blogspot.com\/_OQgYQ9CsO80\/TS6kkfHsl2I\/AAAAAAAABZk\/vMh8Hg_ELT0\/s320\/mark-cuban-cheering.jpg\" width=\"500\" \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nMark Cuban is the owner of the NBA basketball team the Dallas Mavericks, owner of Landmark Theatres, and Chairman of the HDTV cable network HDNet. The following lessons are extracted from his blog posts \u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/blogmaverick.com\/2004\/04\/23\/success-and-motivation-part-1\/\"\u003ESuccess and Motivation\u003C\/a\u003E. The following are excerpts from his blog. \u003Ca name='more'\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003C!-- adsense --\u003E\u003Cspan class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size: large;\"\u003E1) Dream, Believe and Imagine\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cspan class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size: large;\"\u003E\u003C\/span\u003EMark says, \"I drove by big houses and would wonder who lived there. What did they do for a living? How did they make their money? Someday, I would tell myself, I would live in a house like that. Every weekend I would do it.\"\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cspan class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size: large;\"\u003E2) Work Hard\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cspan class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size: large;\"\u003E\u003C\/span\u003EMark says, \"As fired up as I was about the job, I was scared. Why? Because I have never worked with an IBM PC in my life. Not a single time, and I'm going to be selling software for it. So what do I do? I do what everyone does: I rationalize. I tell myself that the people walking in the door know as little as I do, so if I just started doing what I told my boss I would do, read the manuals, I would be ahead of the curve. That's what I did. Every night I would take home a different software manual, and I would read them. Of course the reading was captivating. Peachtree, PFS, DBase, Lotus, Accpac... I couldn't put them down. Every night I would read some after getting home, no matter how late.\"\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cspan class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size: large;\"\u003E3) Build Trust and Good Will With People\u0026nbsp;\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nMark says,\"Within about 6 months, I was building a clientele and because I had also spent time on the store's computers learning how to install, configure and run the software, I started having customers ask me to install the software at their offices. That meant I got to charge for consulting help: 25 bucks an hour that I split with the store. That turned into a couple hundred extra bucks per month and growing. I was raking it in, enough that I could move from the Hotel (that was what we called our apartment) where the 6 of us lived, into a 3 bedroom apartment across the street, where instead of 6 of us, there were only 3. Finally, my own bedroom!\"\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u0026nbsp;\u003Cspan class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size: large;\"\u003E4) Be Optimistic and Listen to Instinct (No matter how hard things get)\u0026nbsp;\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nMark says, \"One day, about 9 months into my career as a salesperson\/consultant, I had a prospect ask if I could come to his office to close a deal. 9am. No problem to me. Problem to my boss, Michael Humecki. Michael didn't want me to go. Decision time. It's always the little decisions that have the biggest impact. We all have to make that \"make or break\" call to follow orders or do what you know is right. I followed my first instinct: close the sale. I guess I could have rescheduled the appointment, but I rationalized that you never turn your back on a closed deal. So I called one of my coworkers to come in and open up, and closed the deal. Next day I came in check in hand from a new customer and Michael fired me\".\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003C!--More--\u003E \u003Cspan class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size: large;\"\u003E5) Feeling Good is Important. Enjoy Present Moment\u0026nbsp;\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cspan class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size: large;\"\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size: large;\"\u003E\u003C\/span\u003EMark says, \"After he got fired the first thing he did was went out and partied with his friends. He partied hard and was feeling good.\"\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cspan class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size: large;\"\u003E6) Be Determined and Fearless. Trust that you will figure a way out\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cspan class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size: large;\"\u003E\u003C\/span\u003EMark says, \"He came up with a name and started calling old clients. Two of them agreed and other things started falling in place. He worked hard and built the trust. It was not about money but he was enjoying every moment of it. He made $15k the first year.\"\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cspan class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size: large;\"\u003E7) Do Not Only Do It For Money, Enjoy Every Moment\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cspan class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size: large;\"\u003E\u003C\/span\u003EMark says, \"That first year in business was incredible. I remember sitting in that little office till 10pm and then still being so pumped up, Other days I would get so involved with learning a new piece of software that I would forget to eat and look up at the clock thinking it was 6 or 7pm and see that it was 1am or 2am. Time would fly by.\"\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cspan class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size: large;\"\u003E8) Be Passionate and Always Visualize Your Outcome with 100% Certainty\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cspan class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size: large;\"\u003E\u003C\/span\u003EMark says, \"I would drive over to the gym I belonged to and run 5 to 10 miles on the treadmill going through that day, and the next in my head.\"\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cspan class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size: large;\"\u003E9) Keep Learning, Keep Changing\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cspan class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size: large;\"\u003E\u003C\/span\u003EMark says, \"I was aware and always open to read and learn. I kept adjusting my actions based on what I learnt. I read books about successful people. In fact, I read every book or magazine I could get my hands on. I would tell myself 1 good idea would pay for the book and could make the difference between me making it or not.\"\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cspan class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size: large;\"\u003E10) Be Honest with Yourself\u0026nbsp;\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cspan class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size: large;\"\u003E\u003C\/span\u003EMark says, \"Always ask yourself how someone could preempt your products or service. How can they put you out of business? Is it price? Is it service? Is it ease of use? No product is perfect and if there are good competitors in your market, they will figure out how to abuse you. It's always better if you are honest with yourself and anticipate where the problems will come from.\"\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cspan class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size: large;\"\u003E11) Act like You Are Competing with the Best\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cspan class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size: large;\"\u003E\u003C\/span\u003EMark says, \"Always run your business like you are going to be competing with Microsoft. They may not be your direct competitor. They may be a vendor. They may be a direct competitor and a vendor. Whatever they may be to your business, if you are in the technology business, you have to anticipate that you will in some way have to compete with Microsoft at some point. I ask myself every week what I would do if they entered any of my businesses. If you are ready to compete with the Best, you are ready to compete with anyone else.\""},"link":[{"rel":"edit","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"https:\/\/www.blogger.com\/feeds\/38070791\/posts\/default\/6599983140254828415"},{"rel":"self","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"https:\/\/www.blogger.com\/feeds\/38070791\/posts\/default\/6599983140254828415"},{"rel":"alternate","type":"text/html","href":"https:\/\/www.onepowerfulword.com\/2007\/01\/billionaire-mark-cuban-and-laws-of.html","title":"11 Success Lessons from Billionaire Mark Cuban"}],"author":[{"name":{"$t":"Unknown"},"email":{"$t":"noreply@blogger.com"},"gd$image":{"rel":"http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail","width":"16","height":"16","src":"https:\/\/img1.blogblog.com\/img\/b16-rounded.gif"}}],"media$thumbnail":{"xmlns$media":"http://search.yahoo.com/mrss/","url":"http:\/\/2.bp.blogspot.com\/_OQgYQ9CsO80\/TS6kkfHsl2I\/AAAAAAAABZk\/vMh8Hg_ELT0\/s72-c\/mark-cuban-cheering.jpg","height":"72","width":"72"}},{"id":{"$t":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38070791.post-8457563412470077600"},"published":{"$t":"2011-07-18T02:25:00.002-04:00"},"updated":{"$t":"2011-07-18T03:55:23.599-04:00"},"category":[{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"48 Laws of Power"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Asia"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Athens"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Catholicism"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Corinth"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Delian League"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"featured"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Japan"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Related"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Sparta"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Tokugawa Ieyasu"}],"title":{"type":"text","$t":"3 Things Not To Do When Asking People For Help"},"content":{"type":"html","$t":"\u003Cdiv class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"\u003E\u003Cimg border=\"0\" height=\"320\" src=\"http:\/\/4.bp.blogspot.com\/_OQgYQ9CsO80\/TUzS40qkFbI\/AAAAAAAABaM\/P0WWVfI_jhY\/s320\/Help.JPG\" width=\"550\" \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial;\"\u003E\u003Ci\u003EWhen Asking for Help Appeal to People's Self-Interest Never To Their Mercy or Gratitude.\u0026nbsp;\u003C\/i\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"line-height: 19px;\"\u003E\u003Ci\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial;\"\u003EIf you need to turn to an ally for help, do not bother to re­mind him of your past assistance and good deeds. He will find a way to ignore you. Instead, uncover some­thing in your request, or in your alliance with him, that will benefit him, and emphasize it out of all proportion. He will respond enthusiastically when he sees something to be gained for himself.\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/i\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Ca name='more'\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial;\"\u003E\u003C!-- Adsense --\u003ESelf-Interest Is the Lever that Moves People.\u0026nbsp;\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-family: Arial;\"\u003EThe art of asking people for help depends on your ability to understand the person you are dealing with, and to not confuse your needs with theirs. Know that even the most powerful person is locked inside needs of his own, and that if you make no appeal to his self-interest, he merely sees you as desperate or, at best, a waste of time.\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cb\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial;\"\u003E\u003Cspan class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size: large;\"\u003E3 Things Not To Do When Asking People For Help\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/b\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cb\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: x-large;\"\u003E1\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 14pt;\"\u003E Don’t Bring Up The Past\u003Co:p\u003E\u003C\/o:p\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/b\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial;\"\u003EBringing up the past, rather good or bad, will not help you in your cause.\u0026nbsp; The justice and nobility of your cause will not prevail.\u0026nbsp; Not only is a man not obliged to be grateful, gratitude is often a terrible burden that he gladly discards. It is best to speak pragmatically to pragmatic people.\u0026nbsp; People rarely act against their own interests.\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial;\"\u003ELike in the case of the Corcyrans and \u003Ca class=\"zem_slink\" href=\"http:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Corinthian_F.C.\" rel=\"wikipedia\" title=\"Corinthian F.C.\"\u003Ethe Corinthians\u003C\/a\u003E who were at the brink of war with one another.\u0026nbsp; They both wanted to win over the Athenians as an ally because to do so, would surely win the war.\u0026nbsp; Both sides were to send representatives to plead their case to the Athenians.\u0026nbsp; The \u003Ca class=\"zem_slink\" href=\"http:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Corfu\" rel=\"wikipedia\" title=\"Corfu\"\u003ECorcyra\u003C\/a\u003E representative could only offer one thing and that was an alliance of mutual interests to create a formidable force that could intimidate the rival state of \u003Cst1:place w:st=\"on\"\u003E\u003Cst1:city w:st=\"on\"\u003E\u003Ca class=\"zem_slink\" href=\"http:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Sparta\" rel=\"wikipedia\" title=\"Sparta\"\u003ESparta\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/st1:city\u003E\u003C\/st1:place\u003E. The representative from \u003Cst1:city w:st=\"on\"\u003E\u003Ca class=\"zem_slink\" href=\"http:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Corinth\" rel=\"wikipedia\" title=\"Corinth\"\u003ECorinth\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/st1:city\u003E only talked about their past relationship with \u003Cst1:city w:st=\"on\"\u003EAthens\u003C\/st1:city\u003E and went on to list the many services \u003Cst1:city w:st=\"on\"\u003ECorinth\u003C\/st1:city\u003E had performed for \u003Cst1:place w:st=\"on\"\u003E\u003Cst1:city w:st=\"on\"\u003EAthens\u003C\/st1:city\u003E\u003C\/st1:place\u003E, and the importance of showing gratitude to one's friends.\u003Co:p\u003E\u003C\/o:p\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial;\"\u003ENeedless to say, The Athenians were offended by the Corinthian ambassador by his subtle way of asking them to feel guilty about past generosities.\u0026nbsp; The Athenians could have cared less and allied with the Corcyrans.\u003Co:p\u003E\u003C\/o:p\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cb\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: x-large;\"\u003E2\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 14pt;\"\u003E Don’t Be Trapped In Your Own Wants and Desires\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/b\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial;\"\u003EDo not start from the assumption that the people you are appealing to have a selfless interest in helping you. Don’t talk as if your needs matter to people—they probably could care less, especially referring to larger issues: a great cause, or grand emotions such as love and gratitude when simple, everyday realities would have much more appeal.\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial;\"\u003EWhen the Dutch began to arrive in \u003Cst1:place w:st=\"on\"\u003E\u003Cst1:country-region w:st=\"on\"\u003EJapan\u003C\/st1:country-region\u003E\u003C\/st1:place\u003E in great numbers, \u003Ca class=\"zem_slink\" href=\"http:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Tokugawa_Ieyasu\" rel=\"wikipedia\" title=\"Tokugawa Ieyasu\"\u003EIeyasu\u003C\/a\u003E, the Japanese emperor, was much relieved. He needed Europeans for their know-how in guns and navigation, and here at last were Europeans who cared nothing for spreading religion—the Dutch wanted only to trade. Ieyasu swiftly moved to evict the Portuguese who were desperately trying to convert the Japanese people to Catholicism. From then on, he would only deal with the practical-minded Dutch. \u003Cst1:country-region w:st=\"on\"\u003EJapan\u003C\/st1:country-region\u003E and \u003Cst1:place w:st=\"on\"\u003E\u003Cst1:city w:st=\"on\"\u003EHolland\u003C\/st1:city\u003E\u003C\/st1:place\u003E were vastly different cultures, but each shared a timeless and universal concern: self-interest.\u003Co:p\u003E\u003C\/o:p\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cb style=\"mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: x-large;\"\u003E3\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 14pt;\"\u003E Don’t confuse your needs with others\u003Co:p\u003E\u003C\/o:p\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/b\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial;\"\u003EOnce you make people see how you can in some way meet their needs or advance their cause, their resistance to your requests for help will magically fall away. At each step on the way to acquiring power, you must train yourself to think your\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cb style=\"mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 14pt;\"\u003E \u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/b\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial;\"\u003Eway inside the other person's mind, to see their needs and interests, to get rid of the screen of your own feelings that obscure the truth. Master this art and there will be no limits to what you can accomplish.\u003Co:p\u003E\u003C\/o:p\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cb\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial;\"\u003ESometimes\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial;\"\u003E The Motivation is Superiority\u003Cspan class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size: medium;\"\u003E\u003Co:p\u003E\u003C\/o:p\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/b\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial;\"\u003EBelieve it, or not, there are people who are not motivated through cynical self-interests.\u0026nbsp; These are people who thrive on opportunities to display their good heart.\u003C\/span\u003E \u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial;\"\u003EThey\u003C\/span\u003E \u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial;\"\u003Eprefer to be able to exercise charity, mercy, and justice, which are their ways of feeling superior to you:\u0026nbsp; \u003Co:p\u003E\u003C\/o:p\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial;\"\u003EBecause of their superior position, if you ask this person for help, you emphasize their power and position. The only requirement from you is that all of this is done in public, the more pubic, the better. It is truly their pleasure to give and to be seen giving. They are dying to fund your project, to introduce you to powerful people—this is the wine that intoxicates them.\u003Co:p\u003E\u003C\/o:p\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial;\"\u003EYou must have the wisdom to distinguish the differences among powerful people and figure out what makes them tick. When they ooze greed, do not appeal to their charity. When they want to look charitable and noble, do not appeal to their greed.\u003Co:p\u003E\u003C\/o:p\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cspan class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size: 16px; font-weight: bold;\"\u003ERelated articles\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\"zemanta-related\"\u003E\u003Cul class=\"zemanta-article-ul\"\u003E\u003Cli class=\"zemanta-article-ul-li\"\u003E\u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/socyberty.com\/history\/the-ancient-greeks\/\"\u003EThe Ancient Greeks\u003C\/a\u003E (socyberty.com)\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli class=\"zemanta-article-ul-li\"\u003E\u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/wiki.answers.com\/Q\/Why_Socrates_was_hanged\"\u003EWhy Socrates was hanged\u003C\/a\u003E (wiki.answers.com)\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E"},"link":[{"rel":"edit","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"https:\/\/www.blogger.com\/feeds\/38070791\/posts\/default\/8457563412470077600"},{"rel":"self","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"https:\/\/www.blogger.com\/feeds\/38070791\/posts\/default\/8457563412470077600"},{"rel":"alternate","type":"text/html","href":"https:\/\/www.onepowerfulword.com\/2011\/02\/3-things-not-to-do-when-asking-people.html","title":"3 Things Not To Do When Asking People For Help"}],"author":[{"name":{"$t":"Unknown"},"email":{"$t":"noreply@blogger.com"},"gd$image":{"rel":"http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail","width":"16","height":"16","src":"https:\/\/img1.blogblog.com\/img\/b16-rounded.gif"}}],"media$thumbnail":{"xmlns$media":"http://search.yahoo.com/mrss/","url":"http:\/\/4.bp.blogspot.com\/_OQgYQ9CsO80\/TUzS40qkFbI\/AAAAAAAABaM\/P0WWVfI_jhY\/s72-c\/Help.JPG","height":"72","width":"72"}},{"id":{"$t":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38070791.post-8780831647343632954"},"published":{"$t":"2011-02-08T05:58:00.001-05:00"},"updated":{"$t":"2011-02-08T05:58:00.477-05:00"},"category":[{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"48 Laws of Power"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Espionage"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"featured"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Related"}],"title":{"type":"text","$t":"6 Tips on The Art of Spying"},"content":{"type":"html","$t":"\u003Cdiv dir=\"ltr\" style=\"text-align: left;\" trbidi=\"on\"\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"\u003E\u003Cimg border=\"0\" height=\"320\" src=\"http:\/\/3.bp.blogspot.com\/_OQgYQ9CsO80\/TVCYzI_KfjI\/AAAAAAAABaQ\/0_kHEAtO5m0\/s320\/Spying.JPG\" width=\"550\" \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ci\u003EKnowing about your rival is critical. Use spies to gather valuable information that will keep you a step ahead. Better still: Play the spy yourself. In polite social encounters, learn to probe. Ask indirect questions to get people to reveal their weaknesses and intentions. There is no occasion that is not an opportunity for artful spying.\u003C\/i\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Ca name='more'\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cb\u003E\u003Cspan class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size: x-large;\"\u003E1.\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/b\u003E\u003Cspan class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size: large;\"\u003E  Pose as a friend while secretly gathering information.\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nPeople will think that you genuinely like them and mistake your interest as friendship.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cb\u003E\u003Cspan class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size: x-large;\"\u003E2.\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/b\u003E\u003Cspan class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size: large;\"\u003E\u0026nbsp;Speak when only necessary.\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nLearn to possess the ability to suppress your thoughts in the conversation,\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cb\u003E\u003Cspan class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size: x-large;\"\u003E3. \u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/b\u003E\u003Cspan class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size: large;\"\u003E Learn to make others talk endlessly about themselves.\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nThey will inadvertently reveal their intentions and plans.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cb\u003E\u003Cspan class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size: x-large;\"\u003E4. \u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/b\u003E\u003Cspan class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size: large;\"\u003E Organize social gathering with people whom you are interested in knowing.\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nThis is when most people’s guards are down.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cspan class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size: x-large;\"\u003E\u003Cb\u003E5. \u003C\/b\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size: large;\"\u003E Stir up people’s emotions by contradicting them.\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nIn their emotional state they will reveal all kinds of truths about themselves, truths you can later use against them.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cb\u003E\u003Cspan class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size: x-large;\"\u003E6. \u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/b\u003E\u003Cspan class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size: large;\"\u003E Give them a false confession.\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nBy pretending to bare your heart to another person, you make them more likely to reveal their own secrets. This can also be a test to see if you can trust the person with your secret and reveal their true character, loyalty and honesty. This kind of knowledge is often the most valuable to predict future actions. Information is critical to power, but just as you spy on other people, you must be prepared for them to spy on you. One of the most potent weapons in the battle for information, then, is giving out false information. By feeding people wrong information, then, you gain a potent advantage. While spying gives you a third eye, disinformation puts out one of your enemy's eyes.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cb\u003E\u003Cspan class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size: x-large;\"\u003EThe Risks of Spying\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/b\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n• You have little control over the people who are doing the work. Perhaps they will ineptly expose your spying. They may secretly turn against you.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n• People may begin to suspect you are worming secrets out of them under the guise of conversation. Emphasize friendly chatter, not valuable information. \u003Cbr \/\u003E\n• Your search for gems of information cannot be too obvious. Your probing questions will reveal more about yourself and your intentions than about the information you hope to find about them.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\"zemanta-related\"\u003E\u003Ch6 class=\"zemanta-related-title\" style=\"font-size: 1em; margin: 1em 0 0 0;\"\u003ERelated articles\u003C\/h6\u003E\u003Cul class=\"zemanta-article-ul\"\u003E\u003Cli class=\"zemanta-article-ul-li\"\u003E\u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/www.huffingtonpost.com\/2011\/01\/07\/spy-controversies_n_805495.html\"\u003ENotorious Spy Cases Around The World (PHOTOS)\u003C\/a\u003E (huffingtonpost.com)\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli class=\"zemanta-article-ul-li\"\u003E\u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/www.autoblog.com\/2011\/02\/07\/spy-shots-are-you-the-audi-rs7\/?icid=zemanta\"\u003ESpy Shots: Are you the Audi RS7?\u003C\/a\u003E (autoblog.com)\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E"},"link":[{"rel":"edit","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"https:\/\/www.blogger.com\/feeds\/38070791\/posts\/default\/8780831647343632954"},{"rel":"self","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"https:\/\/www.blogger.com\/feeds\/38070791\/posts\/default\/8780831647343632954"},{"rel":"alternate","type":"text/html","href":"https:\/\/www.onepowerfulword.com\/2011\/02\/6-tips-on-art-of-spying.html","title":"6 Tips on The Art of Spying"}],"author":[{"name":{"$t":"Unknown"},"email":{"$t":"noreply@blogger.com"},"gd$image":{"rel":"http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail","width":"16","height":"16","src":"https:\/\/img1.blogblog.com\/img\/b16-rounded.gif"}}],"media$thumbnail":{"xmlns$media":"http://search.yahoo.com/mrss/","url":"http:\/\/3.bp.blogspot.com\/_OQgYQ9CsO80\/TVCYzI_KfjI\/AAAAAAAABaQ\/0_kHEAtO5m0\/s72-c\/Spying.JPG","height":"72","width":"72"}},{"id":{"$t":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38070791.post-7853254872218590641"},"published":{"$t":"2011-02-03T06:38:00.002-05:00"},"updated":{"$t":"2011-02-07T19:53:58.235-05:00"},"category":[{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"48 Laws of Power"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Al Capone"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"featured"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Jay Gould"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Related"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Victor Lustig"}],"title":{"type":"text","$t":"5 Ways To Disarm People"},"content":{"type":"html","$t":"\u003Cdiv dir=\"ltr\" style=\"text-align: left;\" trbidi=\"on\"\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"\u003E\u003Cimg border=\"0\" height=\"320\" src=\"http:\/\/3.bp.blogspot.com\/_OQgYQ9CsO80\/TUpe2VViXZI\/AAAAAAAABaI\/O4fIbwDIpH4\/s320\/Honesty.JPG\" width=\"550\" \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nOne sincere and honest move will cover over dozens of dishonest ones. Open-hearted gestures of honesty and generosity bring down the guard of even the most suspicious people..\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Ca name='more'\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cspan class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size: large;\"\u003E1. Act of Sincerity and Honesty\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nWho will distrust a person literally caught in the act of being honest?  This is an unexpected, well-timed gesture that conflicts the emotions and distracts the one being disarmed and have the most brutal and cynical beast in the kingdom eating out of your hand.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nCount \u003Ca class=\"zem_slink\" href=\"http:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Victor_Lustig\" rel=\"wikipedia\" title=\"Victor Lustig\"\u003EVictor Lustig\u003C\/a\u003E is one of the best examples of this law at work.  Lustig was a \u003Ca class=\"zem_slink\" href=\"http:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Confidence_trick\" rel=\"wikipedia\" title=\"Confidence trick\"\u003Econ man\u003C\/a\u003E of great distinction, refinement and culture, and his knowledge of human psychology was his most important characteristic.  He was so confident in himself that he was able to con \u003Ca class=\"zem_slink\" href=\"http:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Al_Capone\" rel=\"wikipedia\" title=\"Al Capone\"\u003EAl Capone\u003C\/a\u003E, the most feared gangster of his time, out of $5,000.  Capone never knew what happened because Lustig disarmed him through selective honesty.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nLustig returned $50,000 to Capone for allowing him to take the money in order to double it in sixty-days.  Lustig took the money and left it in a safety deposit box until the sixty-days were up.  He went back to Capone, apologized profusely about the deal falling through and returned the original $50,000.  Capone had already pegged Lustig as a con artist, but when Lustig returned the money, it confused Capone and he dropped his guard and gave Lustig $5,000 just for “being honest.”\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cspan class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size: large;\"\u003E2. Give Before You Take \u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nIt softens the ground, takes the bite out of a future request, or simply creates a distraction. And the giving can take many forms: an actual gift, a generous act, a kind favor, an \"honest\" admission—whatever it takes.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cspan class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size: large;\"\u003E3. Use Selective Honesty on your First Encounter with Someone\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nFirst impressions last a long time. If someone believes you are honest at the start of your relationship it takes a lot to convince them otherwise.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n.A con man by the name of Lord John Gordon-Gordon proved to \u003Ca class=\"zem_slink\" href=\"http:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Jay_Gould\" rel=\"wikipedia\" title=\"Jay Gould\"\u003EJay Gould\u003C\/a\u003E, another con man, that phony \u003Ca class=\"zem_slink\" href=\"http:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Erie_Railroad\" rel=\"wikipedia\" title=\"Erie Railroad\"\u003EErie railroad\u003C\/a\u003E stocks that Gould had invested in was the work of top executives at railroad.  Gould was so grateful to Gordon-Gordon that they became friends buying the controlling interest of the railroad.  Soon Gordon-Gordon betrayed Gould and disappeared.  Gordon-Gordon was a con man, but his initial act of honesty and support had so blinded Gould that it took the loss of millions for him to see through the scheme\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cspan class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size: large;\"\u003E4. Build a Reputation For Honesty Based on a Series of Acts\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nDuke Wu of Cheng married off his daughter and killed one of his ministers in order to take over the powerful kingdom of Hu.  The ruler of Hu heard that the minister was executed for telling Cheng to conquer the kingdom of Hu. Hu’s ruler also considered the marriage of Cheng’s daughter and other acts of kindness from Cheng and let down his guard.  A few weeks later Cheng forces swept through Hu and took the country, never to relinquish it.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cspan class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size: large;\"\u003E5. Give a Gift\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nFew people can resist a gift, even from the most hardened enemy, which is why it is often the perfect way to disarm people. A gift brings out the child in us, instantly lowering our defenses. Although we often view other people's actions in the most cynical light, we rarely see the \u003Ca class=\"zem_slink\" href=\"http:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Machiavellianism\" rel=\"wikipedia\" title=\"Machiavellianism\"\u003EMachiavellian\u003C\/a\u003E element of a gift, which quite often hides ulterior motives. A gift is the perfect object in which to hide a deceptive move.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\"zemanta-pixie\" style=\"height: 15px; margin-top: 10px;\"\u003E\u003Cimg alt=\"\" class=\"zemanta-pixie-img\" src=\"http:\/\/img.zemanta.com\/pixy.gif?x-id=16103c8d-225d-46d7-8e74-0901859170c9\" style=\"border: none; float: right;\" \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E"},"link":[{"rel":"edit","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"https:\/\/www.blogger.com\/feeds\/38070791\/posts\/default\/7853254872218590641"},{"rel":"self","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"https:\/\/www.blogger.com\/feeds\/38070791\/posts\/default\/7853254872218590641"},{"rel":"alternate","type":"text/html","href":"https:\/\/www.onepowerfulword.com\/2011\/02\/5-ways-to-disarm-people.html","title":"5 Ways To Disarm People"}],"author":[{"name":{"$t":"Unknown"},"email":{"$t":"noreply@blogger.com"},"gd$image":{"rel":"http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail","width":"16","height":"16","src":"https:\/\/img1.blogblog.com\/img\/b16-rounded.gif"}}],"media$thumbnail":{"xmlns$media":"http://search.yahoo.com/mrss/","url":"http:\/\/3.bp.blogspot.com\/_OQgYQ9CsO80\/TUpe2VViXZI\/AAAAAAAABaI\/O4fIbwDIpH4\/s72-c\/Honesty.JPG","height":"72","width":"72"}},{"id":{"$t":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38070791.post-8160886337260481078"},"published":{"$t":"2011-02-01T06:27:00.023-05:00"},"updated":{"$t":"2011-05-14T04:18:35.908-04:00"},"category":[{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"48 Laws of Power"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"featured"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Related"}],"title":{"type":"text","$t":"10 Ways To Become Indispensable"},"content":{"type":"html","$t":"\u003Cdiv dir=\"ltr\" style=\"text-align: left;\" trbidi=\"on\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"\u003E\u003Cimg border=\"0\" height=\"320\" src=\"http:\/\/4.bp.blogspot.com\/_OQgYQ9CsO80\/TUdGGTakWKI\/AAAAAAAABaA\/2ls2Dp-NhA4\/s320\/Dependent.JPG\" width=\"550\" \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv align=\"center\" class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white; text-align: center;\"\u003E\u003Cspan class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-family: Arial;\"\u003E\u003Cspan class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size: 21px;\"\u003E\u003Cb\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003C\/b\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\"\u003E\u003Ci style=\"mso-bidi-font-style: normal;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 12pt;\"\u003ETo maintain your independence you must always be needed and wanted. Make people depend on you for their happiness and prosperity and you have nothing to fear. Never teach them enough so that they can do without you.\u003Co:p\u003E\u003C\/o:p\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/i\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca name='more'\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 12pt;\"\u003ENecessity rules the world. If you create no need for yourself, then you will be done away with at first opportunity. If on the other hand, you make others depend on you for their welfare and counteract their weakness with your own \"iron and blood\", then you will survive your masters. You will have all the benefits of power without the thorns that come from being a master.\u003Co:p\u003E\u003C\/o:p\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003Cst1:place w:st=\"on\"\u003E\u003Cst1:city w:st=\"on\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 12pt;\"\u003E\u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/www.blogger.com\/goog_1498428821\"\u003EBismarck\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/st1:city\u003E\u003C\/st1:place\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 12pt;\"\u003E\u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Otto_von_Bismarck\"\u003E \u003C\/a\u003Eunderstood the importance of keeping people dependent.\u0026nbsp; He sought out a weak ruler, \u003Ca class=\"zem_slink\" href=\"http:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Frederick_William_IV_of_Prussia\" rel=\"wikipedia\" title=\"Frederick William IV of Prussia\"\u003EFrederick William IV\u003C\/a\u003E, king of Prussia and created a relationship of dependency.\u0026nbsp; He was a key player in restoring the king’s power so much so that when the king died, his brother William who preceded him depended on \u003Cst1:place w:st=\"on\"\u003E\u003Cst1:city w:st=\"on\"\u003EBismarck\u003C\/st1:city\u003E\u003C\/st1:place\u003E as well.\u0026nbsp; \u003Cst1:place w:st=\"on\"\u003E\u003Cst1:city w:st=\"on\"\u003EBismarck\u003C\/st1:city\u003E\u003C\/st1:place\u003E became their strength, their intelligence and their spine and in the process, he became a powerful force to reckon with, he was the man behind the throne, calling the shots.\u0026nbsp; \u003Co:p\u003E\u003C\/o:p\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003Cb style=\"mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 14pt;\"\u003E1\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/b\u003E\u003Cb style=\"mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 12pt;\"\u003E. Seek Out Weak People in Power\u003Co:p\u003E\u003C\/o:p\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/b\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 12pt;\"\u003ESeeking out those already in power is foolish.\u0026nbsp; They will swallow you up and spit you out.\u0026nbsp; They do not need anything from you. Seek people who are on the rise and help them become stars.\u003Co:p\u003E\u003C\/o:p\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 12pt;\"\u003E.\u003Co:p\u003E\u003C\/o:p\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C!-- adsense --\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003Cb style=\"mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 14pt;\"\u003E2.\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/b\u003E\u003Cb style=\"mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 12pt;\"\u003E\u0026nbsp;Create a Need for You\u003Co:p\u003E\u003C\/o:p\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/b\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 12pt;\"\u003EIf you have to bully someone into doing what you want, that is not power.\u0026nbsp; The key is making the person believe that your services are needed and without you they will be completely lost.\u003Co:p\u003E\u003C\/o:p\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003Cb style=\"mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 14pt;\"\u003E3.\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/b\u003E\u003Cb style=\"mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 12pt;\"\u003E\u0026nbsp;Further Your Superior's Cause\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/b\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 12pt;\"\u003EEnmesh yourself in the work of your superior.\u0026nbsp;\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 16px;\"\u003EBy doing this your superior knows that to get rid of you is futile.\u0026nbsp; They can not afford to train another without losing time and a lot of money.\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003Cb style=\"mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 14pt;\"\u003E4.\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/b\u003E\u003Cb style=\"mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 12pt;\"\u003E\u0026nbsp;Create Worth\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/b\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 12pt;\"\u003EPossess a talent and creative skill that simply cannot be replaced.\u003Cb\u003E\u0026nbsp;\u003C\/b\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 16px;\"\u003EPeople will think twice before getting rid of you because to get rid of you may spell disaster or even death.\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003Cb style=\"mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 14pt;\"\u003E5.\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/b\u003E\u003Cb style=\"mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 12pt;\"\u003E\u0026nbsp;Network\u0026nbsp;\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/b\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 12pt;\"\u003ECreate a situation in which you can always latch on to another patron.\u0026nbsp;\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 16px;\"\u003EThis just simply means you have other places that will welcome your skills and talents in your sights.\u0026nbsp; Your employer knows that they cannot easily find another worker with your particular talent so they will jump hoops to keep you in their employ.\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003C!--More--\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003Cb style=\"mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 14pt;\"\u003E6.\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/b\u003E\u003Cb style=\"mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 12pt;\"\u003E Specialized Knowledge and Skill\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/b\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 12pt;\"\u003E \u003Co:p\u003E\u003C\/o:p\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 12pt;\"\u003E\u003Cspan class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-family: 'Times New Roman'; font-size: small;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 12pt;\"\u003EHave the appearance of specialized knowledge and skill.\u003Cb\u003E\u0026nbsp;\u003C\/b\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003EThis gives you leeway in your ability to deceive those above you into thinking they cannot do without you.\u0026nbsp; It is always in your power to make your skills indispensible.\u003Co:p\u003E\u003C\/o:p\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003Cb style=\"mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 14pt;\"\u003E7.\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/b\u003E\u003Cb style=\"mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 12pt;\"\u003E Wrap Yourself Around the Source of Power\u003Co:p\u003E\u003C\/o:p\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/b\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 12pt;\"\u003EYou have placed yourself in a position that to cut you away would cause great trauma. You do not necessarily have to entwine yourself around the superior; another person will do, as long as he or she too is indispensable in the chain.\u003Co:p\u003E\u003C\/o:p\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003Cb style=\"mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 14pt;\"\u003E8.\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/b\u003E\u003Cb style=\"mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 12pt;\"\u003E\u0026nbsp;Learn to Keep Secrets\u003Co:p\u003E\u003C\/o:p\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/b\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 12pt;\"\u003EBy knowing people’s secrets, you seal your position with them.\u0026nbsp; \u003Co:p\u003E\u003C\/o:p\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003Cb style=\"mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 14pt;\"\u003E9.\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/b\u003E\u003Cb style=\"mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 12pt;\"\u003E\u0026nbsp;It is all Business\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/b\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 12pt;\"\u003EDo not imagine your superior’s dependence on you will make them love you.\u0026nbsp;\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 16px;\"\u003EIt is more than likely that they resent and fear you, which is better that they fear the consequences of losing you rather than out of love for your company.\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white; text-indent: -4.5pt;\"\u003E\u003Cb style=\"mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 14pt;\"\u003E10.\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/b\u003E\u003Cb style=\"mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 12pt;\"\u003E Mutual Dependence\u003Co:p\u003E\u003C\/o:p\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/b\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 12pt;\"\u003EThe weakness of making others depend on you is that you are in some measure dependent on them. Although this is true, you will not have the unbearable pressure of being on top, and your superior will in essence be your slave, for he will depend on you.\u003Co:p\u003E\u003C\/o:p\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 12pt;\"\u003E\u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Louis_XI_of_France\"\u003ELouis XI\u003C\/a\u003E (1423-1483) the great Spider King of \u003Cst1:place w:st=\"on\"\u003E\u003Cst1:country-region w:st=\"on\"\u003EFrance\u003C\/st1:country-region\u003E\u003C\/st1:place\u003E once asked his astrologer to tell of his own fate and how long he had to live.\u0026nbsp; The astrologer replied, “I shall die just three days before Your Majesty.”\u0026nbsp; The king was vexed because he had planned to kill the astrologer that day.\u0026nbsp; His belief in astrology was so strong that he never doubted the astrologer and spared his life.\u0026nbsp; The astrologer proved his mastery of power and actually survived the king by several years.\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E"},"link":[{"rel":"edit","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"https:\/\/www.blogger.com\/feeds\/38070791\/posts\/default\/8160886337260481078"},{"rel":"self","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"https:\/\/www.blogger.com\/feeds\/38070791\/posts\/default\/8160886337260481078"},{"rel":"alternate","type":"text/html","href":"https:\/\/www.onepowerfulword.com\/2011\/02\/10-ways-to-become-indispensable.html","title":"10 Ways To Become Indispensable"}],"author":[{"name":{"$t":"Unknown"},"email":{"$t":"noreply@blogger.com"},"gd$image":{"rel":"http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail","width":"16","height":"16","src":"https:\/\/img1.blogblog.com\/img\/b16-rounded.gif"}}],"media$thumbnail":{"xmlns$media":"http://search.yahoo.com/mrss/","url":"http:\/\/4.bp.blogspot.com\/_OQgYQ9CsO80\/TUdGGTakWKI\/AAAAAAAABaA\/2ls2Dp-NhA4\/s72-c\/Dependent.JPG","height":"72","width":"72"}},{"id":{"$t":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38070791.post-7507141994268310479"},"published":{"$t":"2011-01-30T04:34:00.021-05:00"},"updated":{"$t":"2011-02-01T16:42:29.375-05:00"},"category":[{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"48 Laws of Power"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"featured"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Lola Montez"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Mary Chapin Carpenter"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"PAUL Hammond"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Related"}],"title":{"type":"text","$t":"5 Ways How to Change Yourself through Positive Associations and Avoid the Unhappy\/ Unlucky !"},"content":{"type":"html","$t":"\u003Cdiv dir=\"ltr\" style=\"text-align: left;\" trbidi=\"on\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"\u003E\u003Cimg border=\"0\" height=\"320\" src=\"http:\/\/4.bp.blogspot.com\/_OQgYQ9CsO80\/TUTCQOVM-jI\/AAAAAAAABZ8\/z716yXRQ31E\/s320\/AvoidUnhappy.JPG\" width=\"550\" \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"text-align: center;\"\u003E\u003Cspan class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: x-small; line-height: 18px;\"\u003E\u003Ci\u003E\u003Cspan class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: x-small; font-style: normal; line-height: 18px;\"\u003EThis article is part of the\u0026nbsp;\u003Ci\u003E\u003Cb\u003E\u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/www.onepowerfulword.com\/2010\/10\/laws-of-power.html\" style=\"color: #d52a33; cursor: pointer; text-decoration: none;\"\u003EHow to Become Powerful\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/b\u003E\u003C\/i\u003E\u0026nbsp;series. Read all the\u0026nbsp;\u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/www.onepowerfulword.com\/2010\/10\/laws-of-power.html\" style=\"color: #d52a33; cursor: pointer; text-decoration: none;\"\u003E48 Laws of Power\u003C\/a\u003E.\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/i\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cspan class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: x-small; line-height: 18px;\"\u003E\u003Ci\u003E\u003Cspan class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: x-small; font-style: normal; line-height: 18px;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/i\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cdiv align=\"center\" class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white; text-align: center;\"\u003E\u003Ci style=\"mso-bidi-font-style: normal;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 12pt;\"\u003EYou can die from someone else's misery—emotional states are as infectious as diseases. You may feel you are helping the drowning man but you are only precipitating your own disaster. The unfortunate sometimes draw misfortune on themselves; they will also draw it on you. Associate with the happy and fortunate instead.\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/i\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca name='more'\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 12pt;\"\u003EThe infector possesses an inward instability that radiates outward drawing disaster to all that they touch.\u0026nbsp; Marie Gilbert A.K.A \u003Ca class=\"zem_slink\" href=\"http:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Lola_Montez\" rel=\"wikipedia\" title=\"Lola Montez\"\u003ELola Montez\u003C\/a\u003E of \u003Cst1:place w:st=\"on\"\u003E\u003Cst1:country-region w:st=\"on\"\u003EIreland\u003C\/st1:country-region\u003E\u003C\/st1:place\u003E was one such person.\u0026nbsp; Lola found herself in the role of a courtesan (prostitute of the royal court). In today’s society Lola would be considered a gold-digger.\u0026nbsp; She only sought out men with high social standing in the community that she could use for her own gain.\u003Co:p\u003E\u003C\/o:p\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 12pt;\"\u003EOnce she would have her hooks in these men, their slow demise began. \u0026nbsp;One of her victims was king Ludwig of Bavaria, who felt compelled to help Lola yet once he was warned of the dangers of his affair with her, he could not seem to resist Lola’s aura and almost found his once peaceful country in a state of civil war.\u0026nbsp; It was not until then that the king finally ordered Lola to leave but a month after she left King Ludwig was forced to relinquish his throne. \u0026nbsp;\u003Co:p\u003E\u003C\/o:p\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 12pt;\"\u003EThere are many men who suffered because of their association with Lola Montez. King Ludwig said that he was “bewitched” by Lola.\u0026nbsp; Lola was an unstable, incurable and infectious character type. \u0026nbsp;This is not to say that these characteristics are only restricted to women, this is to say that there are some people whose emotions are so powerful that they infect the very soul of the people that they touch.\u003Co:p\u003E\u003C\/o:p\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003Cb style=\"mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 14pt;\"\u003EHow to Recognize a Negative Infector\u003Co:p\u003E\u003C\/o:p\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/b\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 12pt;\"\u003E1. They draw misfortune upon themselves.\u003Co:p\u003E\u003C\/o:p\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 12pt;\"\u003E2. They have a turbulent past.\u003Co:p\u003E\u003C\/o:p\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 12pt;\"\u003E3. They have a long line of broken relationships.\u003Co:p\u003E\u003C\/o:p\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 12pt;\"\u003E4. They have an unstable career.\u003Co:p\u003E\u003C\/o:p\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 12pt;\"\u003E5. They have a forceful character that sweeps you up and makes you lose reason.\u003Co:p\u003E\u003C\/o:p\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 12pt;\"\u003E6. They have a desire to destroy and unsettle and is chronically dissatisfied.\u003Co:p\u003E\u003C\/o:p\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 12pt;\"\u003E7. Look at the effect that they have on the world around them.\u003Co:p\u003E\u003C\/o:p\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003C!--More--\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003Cb style=\"mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 14pt;\"\u003EWhat to Do When You Meet a Negativity Infector\u003Co:p\u003E\u003C\/o:p\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/b\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 12pt;\"\u003E1. Don’t argue with them, this is part of how they trap you.\u003Co:p\u003E\u003C\/o:p\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 12pt;\"\u003E2. Don’t try to help them no matter what they say.\u003Co:p\u003E\u003C\/o:p\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 12pt;\"\u003E3. Don’t pass the person onto your friends or you will become enmeshed.\u003Co:p\u003E\u003C\/o:p\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 12pt;\"\u003E4. Flee the infector's presence or suffer the consequences.\u003Co:p\u003E\u003C\/o:p\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003Cb style=\"mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 14pt;\"\u003ELearn To Fear the Power of Infection\u003Co:p\u003E\u003C\/o:p\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/b\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 12pt;\"\u003EThe risk of associating with negative infectors is that you will waste valuable time and energy trying to free yourself. Through a kind of guilt by association, you will also suffer in the eyes of others.\u003Co:p\u003E\u003C\/o:p\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 12pt;\"\u003EOn the other side of the spectrum are positive infectors are those people who attract happiness through their good cheer, natural buoyancy, and intelligence. They are a source of pleasure, and you must associate with them to share in the prosperity they draw upon themselves.\u0026nbsp; \u003Co:p\u003E\u003C\/o:p\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003Cb style=\"mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 14pt;\"\u003E5 Ways to Change Yourself through Positive Associations\u003Co:p\u003E\u003C\/o:p\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/b\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white; margin-left: 13.5pt; text-indent: -13.5pt;\"\u003E\u003Cb\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: large;\"\u003E1. \u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/b\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 12pt;\"\u003EIf you are miserly by nature, associate with the generous and they will infect you, opening up everything that is tight and restricted in you. Only generous souls attain greatness.\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003Cspan class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size: large;\"\u003E\u003Cb\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial;\"\u003E2.\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/b\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial;\"\u003E \u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 12pt;\"\u003EIf you are gloomy, gravitate to the cheerful.\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003Cb\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: large;\"\u003E3.\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/b\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 12pt;\"\u003E If you are prone to isolation, force yourself to befriend the gregarious.\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white; margin-left: .25in; text-indent: -.25in;\"\u003E\u003Cb\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: large;\"\u003E4.\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/b\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 12pt;\"\u003E\u0026nbsp;Never associate with those who share your defects—they will reinforce everything that holds you back.\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003Cb\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: large;\"\u003E5.\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/b\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 12pt;\"\u003E\u0026nbsp;Only create associations with positive affinities. \u003Co:p\u003E\u003C\/o:p\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003Cb style=\"mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 14pt;\"\u003EYour rule for life… \u003Co:p\u003E\u003C\/o:p\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/b\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"background: white;\"\u003E\u003Cspan style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: 12pt;\"\u003ERecognize the fortunate so that you may choose their company and the unfortunate so that you may avoid them. Misfortune is usually the crime of folly, and among those who suffer from it there is no malady more contagious: Never open your door to the least of misfortunes, for, if you do, many others will follow in its train… Do not die of another's misery. (Baltasar Gracian,\u0026nbsp;\u0026nbsp; 1601-1658)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E"},"link":[{"rel":"edit","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"https:\/\/www.blogger.com\/feeds\/38070791\/posts\/default\/7507141994268310479"},{"rel":"self","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"https:\/\/www.blogger.com\/feeds\/38070791\/posts\/default\/7507141994268310479"},{"rel":"alternate","type":"text/html","href":"https:\/\/www.onepowerfulword.com\/2011\/01\/5-ways-how-to-change-yourself-through.html","title":"5 Ways How to Change Yourself through Positive Associations and Avoid the Unhappy\/ Unlucky !"}],"author":[{"name":{"$t":"Unknown"},"email":{"$t":"noreply@blogger.com"},"gd$image":{"rel":"http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail","width":"16","height":"16","src":"https:\/\/img1.blogblog.com\/img\/b16-rounded.gif"}}],"media$thumbnail":{"xmlns$media":"http://search.yahoo.com/mrss/","url":"http:\/\/4.bp.blogspot.com\/_OQgYQ9CsO80\/TUTCQOVM-jI\/AAAAAAAABZ8\/z716yXRQ31E\/s72-c\/AvoidUnhappy.JPG","height":"72","width":"72"}},{"id":{"$t":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38070791.post-6033791934247860370"},"published":{"$t":"2011-01-27T05:37:00.004-05:00"},"updated":{"$t":"2011-07-22T16:15:14.681-04:00"},"category":[{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"48 Laws of Power"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"featured"},{"scheme":"http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#","term":"Related"}],"title":{"type":"text","$t":"5 Ways to Win A Discussion Without Argument"},"content":{"type":"html","$t":"\u003Cdiv dir=\"ltr\" style=\"text-align: left;\" trbidi=\"on\"\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"\u003E\u003Cimg border=\"0\" height=\"280\" src=\"http:\/\/1.bp.blogspot.com\/_OQgYQ9CsO80\/TUEi1OETg1I\/AAAAAAAABZ4\/8forCL394tU\/s320\/WinThroughAction.JPG\" width=\"550\" \/\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ci\u003E\u003Cspan class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: small; font-style: normal; line-height: 18px;\"\u003EThis article is part of the\u0026nbsp;\u003Ci\u003E\u003Cb\u003E\u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/www.onepowerfulword.com\/2010\/10\/laws-of-power.html\" style=\"color: #d52a33; cursor: pointer; text-decoration: none;\"\u003EHow to Become Powerful\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/b\u003E\u003C\/i\u003E\u0026nbsp;series. Read all the\u0026nbsp;\u003Ca href=\"http:\/\/www.onepowerfulword.com\/2010\/10\/laws-of-power.html\" style=\"color: #d52a33; cursor: pointer; text-decoration: none;\"\u003E48 Laws of Power\u003C\/a\u003E.\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/i\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Ci\u003E\u003Cspan class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: xx-small; font-style: normal; line-height: 18px;\"\u003E\u003C\/span\u003EAny momentary triumph you think you have gained through argument is really a \u003Ca class=\"zem_slink\" href=\"http:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Pyrrhic_victory\" rel=\"wikipedia\" title=\"Pyrrhic victory\"\u003EPyrrhic victory\u003C\/a\u003E: The resentment and ill will you stir up is stronger and lasts longer than any momentary change of opinion. It is much more powerful to get others to agree with you through your actions, without saying a word. Demonstrate, do not explicate.\u003C\/i\u003E\u003Ca name='more'\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003C!-- Adsense --\u003E\u003Ci\u003E\u003C\/i\u003EThe problem with argument is that it creates resentment and offends people. When people agree with you politely, but are really thinking something totally different they are resenting your presence. You will say things in the heat of the argument which will be interpreted as per the other person’s mood and offend them.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cspan class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size: large;\"\u003E1 Comply If You Do Not Know Enough\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nTake the engineer in Athens receiving orders from his commander \u003Ca class=\"zem_slink\" href=\"http:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Mucianus\" rel=\"wikipedia\" title=\"Mucianus\"\u003EMucianus\u003C\/a\u003E to send the largest ship’s mast to be used to help in the siege of the town of Pergumus.  The engineer argued that what the commander needed was not the larger mast, but the smaller which would be better suited for the task. Mucianus was infuriated and sent for the engineer who continued to try to explain his reasoning for sending the smaller mast. For his disobedience, he was flogged and scourged with rods until he died.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nThe engineer’s argument went on deaf ears.  Nobody cared whether or not it was more prudent to use the smaller mast.  The fact of the matter was that a superior gave a command and he decided that by insulting the intelligence of his master by arguing was more important.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cspan class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size: large;\"\u003E2 Satisfy Powerful Ego’s Without Much Sacrifice\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nWhen Florence’s mayor, Piero Sorderini told \u003Ca class=\"zem_slink\" href=\"http:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Michelangelo\" rel=\"wikipedia\" title=\"Michelangelo\"\u003EMichelangelo\u003C\/a\u003E that the nose on his sculpture that he had been commissioned to do of a young David with sling in hand was too big, he did not argue that the nose was just right, Michelangelo merely took the mayor onto the scaffolding and gave the appearance of changing the nose.  Sorderini was pleased and no one was offended.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003C!-- More --\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cspan class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size: large;\"\u003E3 Make Symbolic Gestures to Convey Your Point\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nYou’ve heard the old adage, “Actions speak louder than words.” Yet beyond actions, the most powerful persuasion is symbolic. Symbols like a flag or mythic story or monument is something we all understand without exchanging one word.  Henry Kissinger, who in 1979 suddenly broke off an intense meeting with the Israelis over the return of the Sinai desert to go sight-seeing to an ancient place in Masada. Masada is where seven thousand Jewish warriors were said to commit mass suicide in A.D. 73 rather than give in to the Roman troops.  The Israelis knew that Kissinger’s message was much more than just a warning; it was a significant emotional symbol that made them think far more seriously than any oratorical rhetoric he could have placated.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cspan class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size: large;\"\u003E4 Instill Doubt and Detail\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nIf a co-worker\u0026nbsp;complains\u0026nbsp;about a point then simply apologize and try to understand his issue. Ask them questions that will make them doubt their own point. By instilling doubt in a conversation you can have a more\u0026nbsp;favorable\u0026nbsp;outcome.\u0026nbsp;Say a bunch of technical gobbledygook that further confuses the person complaining, who will then let his guard down because of his own insecurity about his\/her knowledge in that area.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cspan class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size: large;\"\u003E5 Offer Something for Nothing\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nIf it is an unhappy customer with a serious problem then offer the customer money back. You can diffuse a situation that can be a PR nightmare. If it is an unhappy co-worker then get cakes\/pastries for the team and serve it in a common food area. This will help diffuse any work related negative energy and increase your general liking.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E"},"link":[{"rel":"edit","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"https:\/\/www.blogger.com\/feeds\/38070791\/posts\/default\/6033791934247860370"},{"rel":"self","type":"application/atom+xml","href":"https:\/\/www.blogger.com\/feeds\/38070791\/posts\/default\/6033791934247860370"},{"rel":"alternate","type":"text/html","href":"https:\/\/www.onepowerfulword.com\/2011\/01\/5-ways-to-win-through-your-actions-and.html","title":"5 Ways to Win A Discussion Without Argument"}],"author":[{"name":{"$t":"Unknown"},"email":{"$t":"noreply@blogger.com"},"gd$image":{"rel":"http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail","width":"16","height":"16","src":"https:\/\/img1.blogblog.com\/img\/b16-rounded.gif"}}],"media$thumbnail":{"xmlns$media":"http://search.yahoo.com/mrss/","url":"http:\/\/1.bp.blogspot.com\/_OQgYQ9CsO80\/TUEi1OETg1I\/AAAAAAAABZ4\/8forCL394tU\/s72-c\/WinThroughAction.JPG","height":"72","width":"72"}}]}});